(Closed) dont like my ring….help????

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think you sound selfish.

I would give it a little more time, be happy about the fact that you are engaged. Then talk to your Fiance about it again. He is probably embarrased and hurt. Be sympathetic to his feelings, and talk to him about it again after things have calmed down.

Post # 5
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501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Oh goodness! I didn’t realize it’s been 4 months already. I would sit down with him, and have a serious talk about it.

Let him know that you are grateful, but you really would like to have a ring that is not broken. If you are picking out his ring, he should somehow be able to understand that you would want something that you are comfortable wearing.

Could you incorporate your ring into a new ring somehow? Maybe look at different stones for the middle, or even have the ring cut to be fixed.

If it’s too much to worry about, I would just keep trying to talk to him about it. Let him know again and again that you are not trying to insult him or make him upset, but you want something that you can wear and be comfortable with. Maybe even if he needs more time to save, or if you are willing to contribute, or whatever works for you two.

I feel for you, I really do. I wish I had some better advice to give, but all I know to do is just keep the communication open and try to get him to understand what you are saying.

Post # 6
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Definitely talk with him and share your feelings. You are NOT being selfish! You deserve a ring that is high quality, one that you can be proud of (gosh, a chip??). Don’t be ashamed to sit him down and tell him what’s on your mind.

Post # 7
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1993 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Have you explained this to amazon?  They generally take Back anything if you call them.  We bought a digitalcamera in the end of Nov that got a hairline crack in the touch screen.  I called amazon about it and they refunded our money before we even shipped the camera back!  This was in March, btw….

Post # 8
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431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

The best thing you can do is let him know how you feel!! I did the same and I switched my ring within 2 weeks. He was sad because I didn’t tell him sooner, but I didn’t want to sound ungrateful to him lol.

Post # 9
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4663 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

definitely follow it up with amazon. they are amazing.

Post # 10
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31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with previous posts. You should talk to your Fiance. You will wear your ring for the rest of your life and when you look down on it, you should have a good warm feeling and not think about it being broken.

Post # 11
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134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Talk to him about it. Explain to him that you love him and the ring. My fiance and I are engaged for 5 months and last month I got a new engagement ring. The jeweler he bought my ring from switched my diamond before my Fiance picked it up. I noticed the stone… my fiance didnt. At first his feelings were hurt a bit but then he understood. We have a court date in August to try to get his money back for the other ring. Fingers crossed. If finances allow i dont think switching your engagement ring is a big deal. Hope it all works out!

Post # 12
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4714 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

That is a horrible situation…can you post a pic? Maybe it is just really visable to you because you know it is there…I think you should talk to him and be honest. I hope it works out for you

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

@tessychan:  I’m so sorry your e-ring has a chip in it!  You are not being selfish or ungrateful at all honey.  You mention that you two might not have a lot of money – maybe you can wear this e-ring and your fiance can purchase an upgrade for you once you two are more financially stable?  For an anniversary present down the road?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would definitely contact amazon and try to work something out.

I understand the ring is chipped, but I’m confused what the other issue is. It doesn’t match the wedding band you had planned on getting? Would you be willing to wear your engagement ring and wedding band on separate hands?

Post # 15
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494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@tessychan:  

I agree with the other girls, you shouldn’t feel bad.  Your feelings are your own and they are justified.  I know you don’t want to hurt his feelings either, so it’s hard.  But, I do think a new ring isn’t being selfish.  I can also understand that you want to keep the original one he proposed with.  Are you sure amazon can’t help? if not, maybe keep the ring you have and order anothe loose diamond and have a jeweler replace it?  is that possible?

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