(Closed) Don't Like Ring

posted 6 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Helper bee

My ring was not a surprise, so no. What do you not like about yours?

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

No I loved my ring but I have two friends who got engaged and didn’t like their ring. Neither of them wore their rings and kept their engagement a secret and both of them are no longer with the guy that proposed lol 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Do you have any pictures of your ring you could post? What don’t you like about it, cut? Size? Color? Number of stones?

I helped pick mine out so unfortunately I don’t have any advice. But I would imagine if you have an honest discussion with your Fiance about it, maybe he’d be open to shopping together and possible doing an exchange? You really can be the only one to gauge how your fiance would react if you brought it up. Of course it is a gift and of course you are so grateful and happy, but you are the one who has to wear it on your hand every day for the rest of your life… you should like your engagement/wedding ring. That’s my .02 anyway. 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Yeah. painful to admit but I don’t like mine really that much to be honest. But, I love what it means and i don’t know, I just never knew what to say. I do love that he picked it himself and made sure it was the right size. And I don’t know, it was a gift you know?   he didn’t “owe” me one, and I’m not sure I felt entitled to demand a different one I want unless I’m willing to buy or help pay for it. Instead I stood firm on picking the wedding band I wanted And that’s what I wear all the time. So thats my experience! Not sure it’s helpful, really. I’d definitely suggest saying something much sooner than later (or never if you wait too long like me!) if you dont like it!

Post # 6
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Worker bee

No – fortunately we have similar taste and he liked *exactly* what was my dream ring (but it’s very simple, dainty skinny band, diamonds on band and a 4 prong simple not too high setting)

 

What don’t you like?

Post # 7
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Helper bee

 I don’t like my ring. I can’t even feel sentimental about it, because my husband didn’t pick it out. It’s a ring that belonged to his mother, who basically chooses to be estranged. It’s not my style at all, and wearing it gives me negative feelings because of the circumstances surrounding it. I’ve never said anything to him, and never will. I hardly ever wear it, now that we’re married and I have a band to wear. I just told him that I don’t feel comfortable wearing such a large ring on a daily basis (which is kind of true), for fear of damaging it. It’s a little white lie – I don’t want to hurt his feelings. I wanted to love my engagement ring, and it does make me sad that it’s not the case. I plan on buying myself a Moissanite ring as a stand-in sometime in the near future. I’ll just tell him that I’m saving the “real one” for holidays and special occasions.

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

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fluffybiscuit:  yes, I did and I kept it to myself ( or at least from DH) for way too long. Should have spoken up and dealt with it immediately rather than obsess over it and hate myself for not loving the ring that the person I loved picked out for me. 

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 7 months ago by fuchsia1027.
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Nope.  I picked my ring.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Hated mine. About an hour after he proposed he asked if I liked it and I couldn’t lie. He returned it the next day and we chose one together. It was hard I know his feelings were hurt and I felt bad too but at the same time I couldn’t lie about it and he wouldn’t have wanted me to lie either. Took time for us to get past it and I do feel it tainted our engagement a bit but after some time it turned out to be fine and we are now happily planning the wedding! 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Couldn’t stand mine, but wouldn’t dare say it 🙁 but luckily the type of ring had these prongs that scratched us so bad so a week later we took it to see if they can shave the prongs down or do something so their not so scratchy, they couldn’t but said I can exhange and i was able to pick out what i wanted…once i picked it out Fiance stated how it’s such a totally differnt ring from what he choose then asked if I liked it and I then told him that I didn’t like it but felt i could of come to love it because of the meaning, and it turned out to be a great evening he said after that I made it even more clear i’m the one for caring for his feelings but he stated that I’m the one who has to wear it and he wouldn’t of minded..when got the new Engagement Ring it was a larger center stone then what I choose during the exchange and that’s just something he did as an extra surprise 🙂 just be honest I feel.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’m already married and we still haven’t picked my ring out !!!! LOL I’ve been trying to fall in love with an oval or round sapphire. .. . because thats what HE wants. Its what HE really LIKES. When I pointed out a cushion cut he said NO SQUARES. It was kind of weird how much of an opinion he has on it. 

– It bothers me because I feel it should be what I LIKE. 

My mom gave us her oval diamond solitaire to wear in the mean time. 

He is stationed far away- military guy. So we haven’t had time to really talk about it. 

– He is focused on making our lives better which I appreciate. . . it just bothers me that he isn’t into diamonds! He resents how up priced they are  he says he  “doesn’t want to buy a 15k rock that won’t help us with our home”.  — 

I do know he wants to get me something I love though – so I don’t think a diamond is all the way ruled out quite yet. 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

My guy has very different taste from me so I knew if he’d picked out my ring on his own it would not have been to my taste. He had certain things he felt strongly about (no white stones and he preferred emerald cut) and I had certain things I felt strongly about (a light blue sapphire rather than a dark blue and a simple setting so I’d feel comfortable wearing it daily). We built my ring together based on each of our strong yeses and noes. I think I could have come to love any ring he gave me but I really had a lot of fun with our process and I love my ring.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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mink714:  I am in a little different situation because i wanted a sapphire, but he didn’t like squares or cushion cuts until I tried on one particular ring – which is what he ended up getting me! i tried on so many round and oval rings then ended up with this:

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fluffybiscuit:  what do you and don’t you like about the ring? did your Fiance take you to look at rings at all or did he just go with what he thought?

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 7 months ago by Blueghostgirl.
Post # 15
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Helper bee

I really love my ring, but that’s Bec I chose it myself. My partner and I have very different taste in jewellery; I’ve secretly disliked most of the jewellery he’d given me in the past so I always knew I had to pick out my own engagement Ring. Saying that, I’ve come across quite a few ladies who you can tell don’t love their ring because they didn’t choose it themself – so you’re not alone.

I think you can learn to love it and then upgrade it later. Personally, I think it would be rude and hurtful to suggest changing it straight away especially if your partner has put alot of thought into it. But I guess this also depends on how sensitive your partner is; i know my partner would be hurt if I asked to exchange an e ring (if he had initially chose it himself).

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