(Closed) Don't Like Wearing my Ring

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@AdriannaJean:  Ekk, I would not let this stop you from wearing it! You are female, you are getting married…and that does not make you dumb….As far as another woman grabbing your hand, just say “Yes, we are excited and I’ll send you an email with the details” or something. You NOT wearing makes things look bad…like it could make it seem like your relationship is unstable and it will make your Fiance sad that you don’t want to show that you are seriously taken.

Post # 4
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you love it, you should wear it.

(that I am madly in love and currently planning a wedding)
What’s wrong with that? I guess I don’t understand this.

I work in a male-dominated field, too. I wear my ring every day. The guys ask about the wedding. I don’t feel that my ring sets me back at all, or makes me have to work harder to prove myself–I get numerous compliments from them on my work every day. 

Post # 5
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I felt this way too about being engaged. It was weird. I hated saying “Fiance” too because then everyone would ask about wedding plans. Everyone stopped asking questions like that about 3 months after he proposed and the engagement wasn’t so new. Hang in there!

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I think you are over analyzing this… Being happy doesn’t equal stupid or unprofessional.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

I don’t see any harm if you don’t want to wear it at work because of your situation. Can you explain it as a way for you to be more respected and less feminine because you’re in a male dominated field?

Post # 8
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225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Wear your ring if you love it. If you’re “madly in love” and you’re proud of it, wear it. Unless you feel like it’s unprofessional to wear it, WEAR IT. It’s yours to love and cherish. And having that little bit of specialness in your day can cheer you up sometimes! It doesn’t matter if you’re in a male-dominated field. Many men are married, or are getting married, or are talking about proposing to their SOs as well. It’s not just a girl topic all the time! 

Post # 9
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4478 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@KatyElle:  agreed.  These seem like odd reasons not to wear a ring.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@AdriannaJean:   Don’t wear your ring at work if that’s how you feel.

Wait until you get pregnant – can’t hide that, lol.  The worst thing about being pregnant, to me, was the fact that everyone in the world could obviously see something I felt was so private.  Weird, but true, so I kind of know where you’re coming from.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@AdriannaJean:  You don’t have to wear it to work if you aren’t comfortable with your coworkers knowing your personal business.  

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@AdriannaJean:   How about the same way you explained it here?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

i think you should wear your ring. it looks like you’re getting married next spring. i would say buy a simple wedding band and after the wedding wear just that to work.

if someone starts talking about your wedding just say “let’s talk after this meeting.” “or, let’s get lunch and i can give you details.”

i had a female boss in a very powerful position. she always wore a ring, discussed her wedding AND her kids and was taken seriously. just own yourself and no one can put you down.

Post # 16
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I would think that talking about your wedding would make you more noticibly female and therefore a target of sexism than wearing your ring.  Very few men notice rings as enagement rings.

If it really bothers you, don’t wear it to work.  Tell your fiance why with something like the sexist guys that I work with give me a hard time about it, or something like that.  If he still isn’t convinced see if he’s more willing to let you wear it on a chain and tuck that under your shirt.  Then it’s private, but you still have it with you.

I work in skilled nursing and I never wear my ring to work, unless its on a chain around my neck.  My fiance knows and is perfectly fine with it.  Even though he wears his engagement ring to work and he also works in healthcare.

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