Don\'t love mom\'s wedding dress

posted 8 months ago in Dress
Post # 2
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

So are you asking if you should tell her you don’t like it? What kind of relationship do you have with your mom? Personally I would never tell someone I didn’t like their wedding dress but my mom & I are really close so I wouldn’t think anything of telling her I didn’t care for the dress she chose. But that’s just how we are, we’re more honest with each other.

Post # 3
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1853 posts
Buzzing bee

I wouldn’t say anything, and I get you’re just venting. 

Personally I hate that dress. Maybe have some options that your mom might like better. Just in case. I personally find it to busy and a bit underwhelming.

 

Post # 5
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7357 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If she likes it and it makes her feel pretty, then I don’t see what the problem is. She has probably questioned your tastes many times over the years and had the good sense to keep those feelings to herself. Time to return the favor.

Post # 6
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1704 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

If she likes it and feels good in it I’m my opinion it’s not your place to tell her that you don’t like her dress. It’s her vision and her choice be supportive 

Post # 8
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2550 posts
Sugar bee

pearlbeemarried :  I agree with you; the design is somewhat unfortunate, and for all its busy print, does not have much impact. If you think your mom is open to suggestions, you could maybe frame it in terms of knowing that she had trouble finding a dress, but there are options that would be really exquisite for such as important day. You could then suggest several alternatives. Since  your mother was looking for colorful – and from what I gather – bold prints, what about these?

From StylesAfrikDesigns, an Etsy shop:

or from New York Dress:

Post # 9
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5778 posts
Bee Keeper

pearlbeemarried :  What you (her daughter) would pick and what she (your Mom) would pick to wear are probably a million miles apart. I think that dress is perfectly fine for a tropical wedding, and if she loves it and feels happy with her choice, I think the best you can do is support her in her decision. You might be surprised at how great she looks when she’s happy and excited and walking to her man. 

Post # 10
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1836 posts
Buzzing bee

Is that a dress or a jumpsuit?  Maybe it’s just the photo but it looks like palazzo pants on the bottom. And something about the pattern seenms to draw attention to the crotch… at least in that photo.

Post # 11
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Yeah I personally don’t like it at all. I think printed wedding dresses are awesome but this one reminds me of all the printed prom dresses that were popular when I was in high school (around 2008-2010).

Post # 12
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9115 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I like the dress. As a wedding dress? Maybe not. But if it makes her feel confident and beautiful, that’s all that matters.

Post # 15
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

pearlbeemarried :  it’s a difficult situation. Ultimately, if she really loves the dress, I wouldn’t be arguing the point with her. It’s her wedding.

But if, as you suspect, she just settled on the first dress she kind of liked, she may end up regretting it, let alone you, and then I think you’d be neglecting your duty not discussing it with her. 

I’d first test out what she’s really feeling about it, along the lines of “I thought you wanted something tropical and bright, maybe even lacey – are you sure that is what you really want?”. Then if she’s absolutely gushing over it, let it go, but if she has doubts, talk them out with her. Even then, I wouldn’t say that you don’t like it, but more that you’re concerned she’ll end up regretting it and that it may not photograph very well.

For what it’s worth, I found some dresses at online stores (Promgirl, Newyorkdress and Bestbridalprices, which are all authorised resellers) that are somewhere between her original vision and what she ended up picking:

https://www.newyorkdress.com/collections/advanced-search/products/johnathan-kayne-8049

 

https://www.newyorkdress.com/collections/advanced-search/products/rachel-allan-6169

https://www.promgirl.com/shop/dresses/viewitem-PD2129743

https://www.promgirl.com/shop/dresses/viewitem-PD2158357

https://www.bestbridalprices.com/images/tonybowls/s2017/large/TB11782.html

https://www.promgirl.com/shop/dresses/viewitem-PD2197222

https://www.promgirl.com/shop/dresses/viewitem-PD1713884

 

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