(Closed) .. just need to vent.

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Lol, I read it… I feel better too when I type it out lol

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I know you said specifically that you do not want any advice, so I will not offer any.  I will only ask one question:  Do you think there is any significance to his statement that HE wants to travel more before settling down?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You don’t want any input? Why post?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

Read…hope you feel better now. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Ahh we all have these days! Hope you are feeling better now Smile

Post # 11
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Newbee

I’m also in a 7 plus year wait, so I totally sympathise and I get your venting. I get SUPER mad (on the inside) when my SO says ‘There’s still so much I want to do before getting married’ or “I need to save up money first”. Like getting married is like freaking retirement or something, or like I’m a princess that needs to be “kept”. 

But I know what he really means is: “I’m not ready yet” and he battles to explain that to me sometimes.

Maybe your SO just told your brother the travelling/ finances excuse so he didn’t have to get into a deep conversation about marriage with him? But I guess you’d know his personality and the context in which he was speaking.

And I think it’s awesome how obviously in love with your SO you are. I’m the same – there is NO-ONE else I want to be with – him not being ready for marriage does not make him a crappy boyfriend, or an idiot, or a lazy good for nothing or whatever. It just means he’s not ready, yet.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

LOL can we just turn this into a Friday vent session? Honestly I feel better when i know other girls are feeling the same as me.  Waiting can be so lonely sometimes.

Yesterday i accidentally looked at some mail of his stating he has $12K saved. My irrational brain kicked in and i started to cry, grabbed my purse and left for the evening. He had no idea where i was or when i was coming back. I just said i looked at his mail and needed to calm down.

Why was i so angry? He has MORE than enough to buy my dream ring. So he is simply sitting back, knowing how much i struggle with this and making the decision to let me continue to wait. I was so hurt i knew if i stayed in the house i would explode on him.

So i left and bought new shoes (haha) which allowed me to rationally talk to him when i got home. I’m still livid.  There literally is NO reason he could not have proposed 2 months ago.  So i am just keeping my distance right now. I have lost all my words on the matter.  I just want to do my own thing.

Oh and i have to attend a wedding next week! Lovey timing *sarcastic grin*. And also the shoes i bought are killer i am in love.

Post # 13
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Worker bee

Read…. and a good vent and some shoes always works! Hope you’re feeling better!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ah, I hope you feel better!  Men are sometime so slow to process things like marriage.  My friend finally got engaged to her boyfriend of 10 years.  They’ve had no problems whatsover as a couple; and, both are financially stable.  So, it beats me why her bf took so long!  *shrugs*

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

a new pair of really killer heels seems to be a good fix to anything. retail therapy really does work!

Edit: Oh and a good book. I read 50 Shades of Grey this week. if that book doesn”t distract a girl nothing will!

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