Post # 1
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Newbee
I have already asked 6 of my closest friends to be in my wedding and they all happily accepted and are very excited about picking out their dresses and being a part of our special day (my Fiance only has 2 groomsmen). Now, I may be downsizing my wedding from 120 to 45 and moving it up 4 months. We are doing this mostly for financial reasons.
Should I let them know that we are going to have a small wedding without a bridal party and apologize or should I go on with 6 bridesmaids for a small wedding?
Please advise. Thanks!
Post # 3
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Busy bee
My best friend pulled the plug on bridesmaids after we had all ready been asked and I would never tell her, I wouldnt want to upset her and it cant be changed, but it made me really sad, I would have been really proud to stand up next to her regardless of the size of the wedding (she had 30 people).
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a large bridal party at a small wedding (or small bridal party at a large wedding) despite what the wedding guide books will tell you about 1 attendant for every 50 guests or whatever. Would these 6 girls still be invited to the small wedding if they weren’t bms?
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
Holy shit, wedding books suggest the number of attendants?? I am so glad I don’t read these, haha.
I’d go ahead with them in your bridal party anyway.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
Unless some of those six are now uninvited, go for a big party. But since it’s a date change too, make sure you tell them asap so they can get it on the calendar.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
We’re having a small wedding and instead of doing a wedding party we’re planning to ask our closest friends to be part of the House Party–very similar duties and honors but they won’t actually stand up with us and they won’t have to buy matching dresses, etc. It’s a nice middle ground between wanting a core support group/helpers/party friends but not wanting to have a larger group up at the altar than in the seats!
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
we just decided to do the same thing!! ive never really been a fan of bridal parties though… your girls should be understanding… just let them know you need more people in the audience 😉