Post # 1
I have been thinking of songs to play at reception and have come up with some pretty good ones. As I was going down the list with my coworker, she asked me ” Why are you playing Will Smith’s- Just the two of us….that’s about a man and his son not a husband and wife. I thought, hmmm well it still says Just the two of us so who cares. Then she asked me ” Why are you playing Bruno Mars= Marry You…..the lyrics say ” We are thinking about something dumb to do…ooooh baby I think I wanna marry you”…
So I thought; well have prided myself on listening to the lyrics of my songs, but now I am curious what other songs have married people played or thought about playing at their reception that makes them laugh at how inappropriate it was.
What songs do like, but won’t play at your wedding?
Post # 3
First of all, can we say negative nancy??? What ever happened to supportive friends??!?!
Secondly, I’m also using Marry you by Bruno Mars. It’s a fun song for cocktail hour.
Songs I won’t play:
Baby Got Back-Sir Mix A Lot
Cha Cha Slide
Anything depressing/sad/man bashing
Post # 4
At first Fiance didn’t want the Bruno Mars song played at our wedding because he says “we are thinking about something dumb to to”, but I talked her into it by explaining that I think the song isn’t saying marrying her is dumb but rather it’s kind of spontaneous and crazy. It isn’t planned and he’s saying I know this might sound dumb but I really want to marry you so let’s go get married.
The Bill Withers version of Just the Two of us is about a couple in a relationship, so I say if you prefer the Will Smith version than go for it!
Post # 5
Friends of ours has James Blunt – You’re Beautiful as their first dance. Apparently the lyrics are about a break up? Anyhoo, I don’t think you should be bothered about if a song is really ‘appropriate’ or not.
That being said, I have one ‘don’t play’ song on my list and I will kill the DJ if he does play it… Black Eyed Peas – Good Night. I am so so so sick of that song.
Post # 6
Fiance and I are one when it comes to our single “absolutely will not play would rather not have music at all if forced to include” song…
Post # 7
the songs on our “do not play” list were:
hips don’t lie by shakira. i hate that song.
party rock anthem by lmfao. my husband hates that song.
we requested that the dj play marry you by bruno mars. i think it’s a fun song 🙂
Post # 8
Young hearts run free – a classic disco tune thats been played at every wedding I’ve been to. It opens with the lyrics ‘Whats the use is sharing this one and only life, ending up just another lost and lonely wife’. I have told everyone who cares to listen that this better not be played on my special day!
Post # 9
@proverbs131: Is this lady crazy?
There’s usually like 3+ hours of dancing at a wedding. Are you really supposed to pick like 50 songs that perfectly define you as a couple? What if you or Fiance just like “Just the Two of Us?” I think she’s overthinking this…
Post # 10
My Fiance said no hip/hop and no rap songs period – so that eliminates a whole lot of music, especially anything that’s playing right now. We’re much older, so we’re going to stick to “old school” R&B songs from the 60s-early 90’s.
Post # 11
We only eliminated coordinated dance songs…Cha Cha Slide, Chicken dance etc.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Haha I went to a wedding where at one point the DJ played “Break Your Heart” by Taio Cruz.. (If you fall for me/I ain’t easy to please/I might tear you apart/Told you from the start, told you from the start/I’m only gonna break break your break break your heart…)
LOL. I was like ok, thisssss is a little much. But Marry You by Bruno Mars is cute and fun and upbeat.. and when the Royal Wedding was on TLC, they used the music and some of the lyrics for promos and when cutting in and out of commercial breaks 😛 Most people will just enjoy dancing along, I think your coworker was wayyyy overthinking it!
Post # 13
I’ve heard “Hey Ya” played at weddings before. One of my friends said it was actually a sad song about an unhappy marriage. She pointed out a bunch of things in the lyrics. I posted them below with my comments on them in bold.
“My baby don’t mess around
Because she loves me so
And this I know for shooo..
Uh, But does she really wanna
But can’t stand to see me
Walk out the dooor..
don’t try to fight the feelin’
Because the thought alone is killing me right nooww..
Uh, thank god for mom and dad
For sticking two together
‘Cause we don’t know hooowww…
(Wait what? We don’t know how to stay together?)
You think you’ve got it
Ohh, you think you’ve got it
But got it just don’t get it
Till’ there’s nothing at all!
We get together
Ohh, we get together
But seperate’s always better when there’s feelings
Involved! (Separate is better?)
If what they say is “Nothing is forever”
what makes, what makes, what makes
what makes, what makes love the exception? (Questioning the length of love I guess)
So why you, why you
Why you, why you, why you are we so in denial
When we know we’re not happy heeeerrreeee… (So it’s about a couple in denial when they know for a fact they’re not happy together I think.)
Y’all don’t want me here you just wanna dance
So.. I guess she was right? I don’t know.. I can’t analyze songs.
I mean it was still fun to dance to it.
Post # 14
I don’t think it matters unless you are using them for your first dance. Then it might be a little weird, but even then if it really makes you happy it’s no one else’s business. We had the hardest time finding a first dance song because a lot of songs have different meanings if you truly look at the lyrics! But I don’t think every song you play at the reception needs to be a mushy love song!
Post # 15
after all of the first dances are over [we plan to do bride/groom, bride/dad, groom/mom, and then the dollar dance], we won’t care what is played and it’ll be by request, we’ll most likely stay away from the chicken dance and others alike, but other than that we plan to have a mix of current, 90’s, disco, rock, and classic wedding songs.
Post # 16
I went to a wedding where they played “Lips of an Angel” by Hinder. All of these couples went up on the dance floor all romantic, singing the song. I hate to be a Debbie Downer, but that song is about wanting to be unfaitful and hiding things from your SO!