(Closed) Don’t SUGAR COAT it for me please!!! tell me how it really is…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: On your wedding day .... you were......
    not really nervous, wasn't that bad : (31 votes)
    70 %
    only nervous once the ceremony started : (6 votes)
    14 %
    scared out of your mind : (5 votes)
    11 %
    breathing into a paper bag & peeing every 5 minutes lol : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    My wedding isn’t until November but I have heard that the day goes by so quickly, as my friend put it, “you want it to slow down, you watch everything whizz by so quickly and then it’s done!” 

    As my other friend said, “I loved planning my wedding, I loved my wedding day but I never want to go through it again!”  🙂

     

    Can’t wait for some advice from already married bees!

    Post # 4
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I was really nervous about a month out from the wedding – I had more cold feet than my FI!  but as the wedding got closer the nerves went away.

    The day of the wedding i was really calm, everyone kept asking me how I was so calm, but I didn’t see what there was to be nervous about.  (I also had a day of coordinator who I trusted was taking care of everything).

    It wasn’t until Canon in D started playing that I had to take a few really big breaths and try to calm down.  once i walked down the aisle it was easy from there and the day/night was a blast!

    Post # 5
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I was really nervous about a month out from the wedding – I had more cold feet than my FI!  but as the wedding got closer the nerves went away.

    The day of the wedding i was really calm, everyone kept asking me how I was so calm, but I didn’t see what there was to be nervous about.  (I also had a day of coordinator who I trusted was taking care of everything).

    It wasn’t until Canon in D started playing that I had to take a few really big breaths and try to calm down.  once i walked down the aisle it was easy from there and the day/night was a blast!

    Post # 6
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    1020 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I thought I would be stressed about all the details and such the day of (I handled all the planning myself), but the day of my wedding I was the calmest I’ve ever been. It was weird in the morning just because I wasn’t suposed to see Darling Husband and it was weird not doing things together. We did a first look and spent a lot of time together taking pictures and connecting – I think I would have been more nervous if I’d spent more time away from him.

    As far as the marriage goes, just know it’s something you work at. There’s not so much of the excitement like when you’re dating, but there’s a comfort in growing with that person. Just be sure to set traditions – a kiss at the door and a talk about your day when you get home, weekly date nights, etc. – so you continue to build your relationship.

    Post # 6
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I was totally terrified. I wasn’t sure if I was making the right decision and had insane cold feet. Then a bee said to me that if I wasn’t nervous about the biggest decision in my life, then that would be strange. I thought she was right. That made me feel so much better. I had thought and worried about much smaller decisions, so it was only natural that I should be concerned about this as well.

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    I only got nervous right before the ceremony, but it was more anticipation than actual nervousness.  On my actual wedding day, lots of things didn’t go as planned but I could have cared less!  I was MARRIED to my best friend, and we had an absolute blast.  My plan went straight out the window and it turned out great anyway! 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I wasn’t nervous at all. After the stress of planning the damn thing, the actual day itself was wonderful because our very capable wedding planner was overseeing everything and I didn’t feel the need to worry at all. As for the actual whole getting married thing, Darling Husband and I had known since our first date we wanted to be together for the rest of our lives, so I was just super excited to march into that ceremony room and make it official.

    I did have about three different vendors tell me I was the calmest bride they’ve ever seen, though, lol, so I don’t know if I’m the standard or the exception to the rule.

    Post # 9
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    3671 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I didn’t feel nervous, I guess for me it was more anticipation, like someone else said.  I wasn’t really stressed out most of the day actually.  I was stressed out that everyone didn’t seem to think it was a big deal to be getting ready slowly and that we were thirty minutes late.  But with everything else I was fine.  Just remember not to stress about things you can’t control or can’t change and to have a good time.  Our chairs never got delivered and everyone thought I was going to flip out.  I couldn’t control that the chairs weren’t there so I was fine.  We got married without ceremony chairs and then had a great time at the reception. 

     

    Post # 10
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    2550 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I just got married 7/7 and I was nervous enough that I slept only 4hrs the night before.(Execution Nerves, not about getting married)   The day goes by soo fast so do take time to eat, drink, and breathe.  Here was my schedule:

    6am- Woke up to pack

    9am- Hair Appt.

    12pm- Make-up

    1-2pm- Travel to hotel; also had to make an unexpected stop to check up on ceremony site

    2-3pm-Ate a couple of bites of a sandwich and got dressed.

    3:30-5pm: Bridal pics/First Look/Couple Pics.  Family didn’t show up so couldn’t do fam pictures.  Also got lost trying to find my room @ the resort.  Plus trying to rush in a tightly fitted gown.  Now running an hr behind because ceremony was suppose to start @ 5pm. From 2pm til 10min before I walked down the aisle, ppl were calling me non-stop about issues.(Some ppls lack of urgency and Beach traffic)

    6pm- Ceremony begins and I’m soo happy, I kiss him when we meet. 

    6:30pm- We’s married now. 

    7-11pm- Wedding dinner.  Soo much fun and very relaxed but they were filling my Darling Husband wine glass instead of mine.  WTH!!!!

    One of my Bestie’s was a DOC in another life so I knew how crazy it would be.  I just expected that being such a small intimate wedding, it wouldn’t be as bad.  Family just takes you there and I wanted to push a couple off of the cliff.LOL  I cursed like a sailor and truly was Bridezilla for about 4hrs but once I saw my Darling Husband face, all was good.  Nothing really mattered.

    So if you don’t have a DOC, make sure to appoint a stern take no prisoner friend who will ensure the timeline is followed.  Also have a picture family handler.  Family will scatter once the ceremony is over and the last thing you want to hear a day later that Grandma or Grandpa wasn’t in any of the pictures.  
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    Post # 11
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    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    A little jittery, but not bad at all.  I can totally imagine that I would have been a bundle of nerves/emotional mess if my grandpa had walked me down the aisle, though.  For a variety of reasons, Darling Husband and I walked down the aisle together…and accidentally wound up greeting people as they came into the church.   I think those two things, unorthodox as they are, made me a lot more relaxed.

    Post # 12
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    1120 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    Hi,

    I was not nervous until when I started getting dressed and it hit me that I was really going to get married a few moments later. Not panicky, but OMG this is real kinda nervous. But as soon as I started walking down that aisle and had eye contact with my Darling Husband, it all went away and we enjoyed the rest.  It all depends on what kind of wedding you have though… Ours was very relaxed in a relaxed setting and with just a few of our closest family and friends present. So not necessarily representative of the majority.

    For the marriage, one thing I wish someone had told me… I can’t think of anything, since it’s been going so great since, and quite frankly, all the advice that everyone has been telling us was unsollicited and nothing new! One thing that is very important to us is to keep having dates, and eat dinner together not in front of the TV to ensure regular quality time together and keep the flame alive.

    Post # 13
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    507 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Our wedding was on 6/23, but this is my second marriage so I kind of knew what to expect. I wasn’t nervous at all about the marriage part…on the contrary, I was soooo excited and couldn’t wait for our wedding day! I knew I was marrying my best friend and soulmate, so I felt great. But I was definitely a bundle of nerves on the wedding day! It surprised me. I was pretty calm, cool, and collected until about 2 hours before the ceremony. Then I started getting really jittery…like others have said, mostly from anticipation. Once I started walking down the aisle, the jitters turned back into excitement and I felt great. I can’t say enough how fast the day goes by. I knew that it would and I tried hard to stay in the moment the whole day; to just enjoy every second. That’s my biggest piece of advice! Stay in the moment and don’t sweat the small stuff! 🙂

    Post # 14
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    3041 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I was SO nervous right before the ceremony started, I felt shaky, scared, wondering how the heck am I going to walk down that isle in front of ALL those people? My stomach was upset, I was almost terrified! Once I started walking down the isle, it all went away. Didn’t feel nervous AT ALL during the ceremony. I was SO HAPPY to be marrying my Darling Husband nothing else mattered.

    EVERYONE told me “you won’t be nervous, it will all go away”… I didn’t believe them. Really wish I did, I was actually nervous about being nervous! But once I started walking down the isle, I was good to go :).

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Oh, and I wholeheartedly second having a DOC. That was the best money I’ve ever spent. Then I was truly able to relax and enjoy the day, because I knew the DOC would take care of everything and tell me where I needed to be and when. Seriously…it was awesome.

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