(Closed) Don’t SUGAR COAT it for me please!!! tell me how it really is…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: On your wedding day .... you were......

    not really nervous, wasn't that bad

    only nervous once the ceremony started

    scared out of your mind

    breathing into a paper bag & peeing every 5 minutes lol

  • Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I planned everything on my own and had no DOC (for refrence)

    I wasnt nervous AT ALL. The night before iw as excited..i talked to my sister/bm for a bit and we agreed it was like the night before christmas but only bigger ๐Ÿ™‚

    The day off flew by without a hitch (minus the obvious one) and i would pay so much money to go back and have that day go by slower. About 5 minutes before i had to walk down the aisle i got jittery…it was just from anticipation though…once that was gone the day was a dream.

    Post # 17
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I was fine in the morning and even felt weird like “it’s my wedding day, shouldn’t it feel different?”

    Then getting ready I was a DISASTER! A total emotional wreck.

    But once I walked down the aisle and saw him–I was good. The ceremony was gorgeous, the party was fun.

    I was nervous, but only *before* not during, so I didn’t vote.

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I am scared, too! I think that the thought of the ceremony itself and just before walking down will be scary as hell for me. ๐Ÿ™ I am glad to hear most nerves were calmed by the time the ceremony took place! 

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I am scared, too! I think that the thought of the ceremony itself and just before walking down will be scary as hell for me. ๐Ÿ™ I am glad to hear most nerves were calmed by the time the ceremony took place! 

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    If you aren’t having a DOC, then, like a PP stated, you need a “stern friend” and a picture herder.

    I have been that at a friends wedding which is fine, except I was also the Maid/Matron of Honor, which meant I had SO MUCH to do and I wanted to yell at people and a yelling bridesmaid looks horrible…..appoint a family member or friend that has to be around anyways to do the work… you’ll be glad you did!

    Post # 20
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I was very calm and not nervous at all until the day before the wedding. I wasn’t nervous about marrying my husband, but about all the people I was going to be in front of. I was contemplating caceling the wedding and just eloping with him…but obviously that didn’t happen. The day of I was scared for the same reason, but it went away after the cermeony:) then the fun started!

    Post # 21
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I wasn’t really nervous at all. A little anxious to get the ceremony part over with because the idea of everyone staring at me was a little unsettling, and a little anxious hoping that my totally diy’d wedding wasn’t a total flop… but about getting married? I was fine. I had a really calm morning, breakfast alone in my hotel room, hair at the salon with my mom and bms, lunch out with them, then getting ready and then it was time for pics! It all went pretty fast but it was great. We had some hiccups (like on our way back from the hair salon we saw hundreds– maybe thousands– of people protesting where we were supposed to get our pics done! lol) but everyone actually kept commenting on how calm I was. I think I was just happy that it was here and I was determined to ENJOY it. 

    I’ve been married 5 mo and I can tell you that has also been awesome. I can’t really think of anything I wish I would’ve known before… except maybe how freaking long the flight to hawaii feels… ๐Ÿ™‚ But as for good advice I’d say really try to be calm on your wedding day. Let problems roll off your back and allow the people who love you to take care of them. My picture venue being protested? Call the photog to deal with it. The bouts I ordered being the totally wrong color? lose ’em guys don’t need flowers. A blizzard the night before our wedding? Our immediately family made it to town so I left the rest to God. 

    Really, by the time you get to your day you just have to trust that everything you’ve put into motion will work, be great, and run smoothly without your micromanaging. 

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @PennyTee: I got really nervous after I put my dress on. I could feel my stomach revolting on me. My bridesmaids and I ran to the adjacent school bathroom and did my thing. After that, two imodium, and a priest saying that the music was starting, I felt fine. The ceremony was a little nerve wracking at first with all of your friends and family watching you up there. After the ceremony, everything was awesome. I really wasn’t nervous during hair (more hungover and tired) and makeup. I think being tired and hungover was alot harder than the nerves. Usually, I chill out the next day with a big, bad hangover not get up at 7-8a.m., take a shower, and get ready for the salon, then put on a big dress, and wear it for 12 hours. So, that was the hardest for me.

    Post # 24
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I was more like

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    @CorgiTales:. I was really anxious about getting things set up and handled. I slept poorly and was nauseous all morning. But getting married was the best part? I grinned like a fool through the entire ceremony. The rest of the day was kind of stressful. A ‘happy blur’ but still just being ‘on’ the entire time and blustering about. Everyone tells you to go slow and take it in… yeah, good luck with that. You’re going to forget and get caught up in it, and at the end of the day, you’re still going to be happy even if you didn’t look at every guest’s face as you walked down the aisle or whatever.

    Post # 25
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    i was more relaxed than i thought i would be prior to walking down the aisle. The morning was a little hectic with make-up and hair and running late but in all honesty the day went by really quickly and without any problems – but i’m pretty laid back so i try not to stress over things that are out of my control – my advice: even though we all work so hard on planning and getting everyting just right, on your wedding day, just let it go..let it play out and dont worry about the little details. enjoy your day that you worked so hard to plan for. cherish every look and every moment you spend with your new husband.

    i’ve been married almost 6 months and it gets better everyday. i love being a wife and being married.

    Post # 26
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I was way more stressed and nervous the day BEFORE the wedding than the day of.  There were a few vendor mistakes, the weather forecast was awful (I’d hoped the ceremony and part of the reception could be outside) and I was scared that no one would have a good time.

    The day of, I was calm, and then an hour before, I started to get excited. Not anxious at all.  It was wonderful, and it all went by way too fast.

    As for marriage – my personal belief is that the foundation of a good marriage is mutual respect, affection, and attraction.  If you have these three things, then you will enjoy each other’s company, fight clean (no insults or name calling, no silent treatment, no manipulation), work together to deal with hardships, and recognize your spouse’s needs as being as important as your own. As long as you BOTH respect, love, and like each other, that’s really all you need.

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