(Closed) Don't think I can stay here anymore…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MissGreenBean:  Ha! I’m with you, and I just was turned down from my dream position today. It’s frustrating I know how you feel and I wish I had words of encouragement for both of us.

I didn’t actually hate my job before I applied for this position, but I think getting so close (in the final 2) and being rejected is really hard on me right now and I find it very hard to stay motivated. I dislike it now more than ever, but I think its more circumstantial.

I’m trying to find ways to stay motivated in my current position, how do you try to stay motivated in yours? Your situation sounds much worse than mine, especially since you get home and aren’t being the person you want to be. I really hope one of your interviews lines up for you!! Stay positive!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Totally in your situation! Well, I’m not overloaded, my work load is ok, but the atmosphere is super negative and it wears me down, plus I spend two and a half hours in my car in traffic commuting, which is such wasted time. Hang in there girl! I’m crossing my fingers for you!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@MissGreenBean:  I’ve listened to ~30 books so far in the last couple years, it does help a LOT!

Post # 7
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Keep sending out resumes! I hope you get good news soon. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I was the same exact way about my job..I literally feel like you just described me to a T. I got out of the job thankfully and it was the best thing I have ever done. I was such a BI**H to everyone around me cuz my job made me miserable…now I am happy and just feel so much better. Everyone around me tells me how much they can tell a difference in my personality from when I used to work there until now. I am so glad I changed jobs, best decision I ever made.

Post # 9
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1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MissGreenBean:  I can totally relate. My job has totally drained me and makes me a different person and not someone I find very likeable. Unfortunately, I feel really stuck for a number of reasons, including and primarily having no idea what kind of work I would do otherwise…first job out of college (7 years ago!), multiple promotions, but not feeling like I know anything else I would be interested in/good at…if that makes sense? I’m sorry for  your situation, but it’s nice to know I am not alone, I really relate to how you feel when you come home at the end of the day. 🙁

Post # 10
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191 posts
Blushing bee

I hate it so bad I cried in the car at lunch today Cry

Post # 13
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4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I used to have that job, down to the  dreams about it and thinking about it non stop. The unpad overtime in a iseless attempt to stay caught up. Eventually we all got laid off so the last few months were REALLY bad.

Guess what, almost anyjob is better! When people around me complain about my new job, I am amazed. I went to hell and back for my last job so the new one is so much different I am literally amazed everyday.

SO, when you do get your new job, you will feel like the luckiest person ever!

Post # 14
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2551 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I totally understand! I’ve been feeling stuck in my job for at least a year now. I’m a legal assistant at the largest law firm in our county & it was my first real job out of college. There are no opportunities for moving up the ladder, once a legal assistant always a legal assistant, my workload is mostly non-existent (today for instance I spent about 2 hrs. total of my entire work day actually working), and it’s a very negative atmosphere that leaves me feeling deflated & defeated nearly every day. I’m a perfectionist & believe in the system/process (maybe a tad OCD about it), but whenever I bring up issues at work with my boss I’m basically told that he knows what the hell hes doing and not to bring it up again or even that he just doesn’t care. It took a good 3 years of working here before he stopped blaming me for missing items in files & beleived me when I would tell him he never gave *whatever* to me. I’ve had my depressed days whenI just go straight home, curl up on the sofa with some junk food & cry at every commercial featuring happy people. My problem is that I feel stuck here because it really is a good job for the area, I get paid decently (nearly all of which goes towards bills), and my benefits are awesome, but I have no idea what would make me happy at this point. But really, I can only spend so many hours a day surfin the net before I loose my mind!

My motivator now is spending some time with myself to discover what it is that I need to make myself happy. I find that taking back my downtime & working out, reading, doing yardwork helps me stay focused on anything other than work & I can occasionally brainstorm…

Post # 16
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2073 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MissGreenBean:  Oof can I sympathize.  I hated my old position so much and it stressed me out to the point of being physically ill.  It sucks!

Glad to hear you are going on interviews.  That has got to help.  As hard as it is, I’ve really tried to make an effort to leave my work at work, talk minimally about my day to Darling Husband so as not to get upset all over again, and try to remind myself daily that it’s just a job and doesn’t define me as a person.  Doing all that takes a ton of effort but it does help.  If you are seriously feeling like it is affectig you that much and are that concerned, perhaps mention it to your primary care doctor if you have one.  He/she may have some advice/resources to help you manage the stress.  Best of luck!

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