(Closed) Don't think it is appropriate to register, FI thinks we have to

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
7211 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@pixiecat:  I know this is kind of silly, but can you just do a small registry, with relatively inexpensive things like kitchen gadgets, and just not publicize it? That way, if people REALLY want to get you a gift they can ask around and find out where you’re registered, but you are very clearly not making a request. 

Post # 4
957 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

If you don’t register, people take that as a sign that you want money.

Weddings are gift giving occaisions. I would make a registry and include a lot of lower priced items if you are concerned about your guests’ budgets.

Post # 5
5660 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think you should just register, it’s really not a big deal. It’s just a way for those that WANT to give you a gift, to find what you do like. And it’s really up to the giver whether they want to give you a gift in addition to traveling or not. It’s definitely not something worth continuing to fight about. Just have it in case people ask.

Post # 6
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@pixiecat:  I would just register for little things. If people are going to get you a gift, they will regardless. It’s easier (at least IMO) to buy something off of a registry because at least I know you want It. I don’t think anyone would be offended or think you’re greedy by having a registry. 

Post # 7
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@pixiecat:  People are always going to ask where you are registered. I agree with PP that you can reguster for a few small items – picture frames, etc. There might be people who can’t attend the wedding and will want to send a gift. 


Post # 8
1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think you should register for small things.  No matter how much I spend getting to a wedding, I’m not going to show up empty handed.  Most guests feel similarly.  Might as well make a list of stuff under $50 that you’d really like to have.

Post # 9
2946 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You can still register and not expect gifts.   There is nothing about a registry that states people must get you anything.   I would keep it low radar (not including it on any of your wedding materials) but have it out there. 

Post # 11
1152 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m in the same exact boat, but we went ahead and registered (90% of the things we registered for are under $50) just because everyone said we needed to.

Post # 12
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@pixiecat:  EVERYONE had to travel for our wedding (not a Destination Wedding, every one just lives spread out). We made a super small registry, let people know verbally we didn’t expect gifts, and STILL got 3K worth of gifts!

We only had a luncheon with 42 people invited!

I guess weddings are one of those occasions where people REALLY like to give a gift!

Post # 13
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think you should go ahead and register.  The only time I have not gotten someone a gift was when the bride specifically told me not to get anything.  You will have people that want to wish you well and get a gift, and it is far better to register before the wedding in case people look than create a registry after the wedding.

Post # 14
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@MexiPino:  This is what we ended up doing and most guests got the idea that we preferred monetary gifts.  We live in a small apartment so we really don’t have space for extra kitchen appliances and holiday platters.

We set up a small registry through Target and didn’t list it anywhere; we only told guests that specifically asked.  We ended up getting lots of cards with money and three gifts to unwrap.  I think it worked out well.

Post # 15
8446 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@pixiecat:  Everyone had to travel to our wedding, and I wrote the exact same thing you did on our website (i.e. you (the guest) being there is the best present to us).  My Mother-In-Law basically told us we had to have a registry, so I put small kitchen items on it (spatulas, cutting boards, etc) and didn’t really mention the registry to anyone.  We ended up getting checks from our guests.  Apparently, there is no way to stop your guests from spending their money on you if they’ve already decided on it.

Post # 16
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We were just in this situation, only I am pro-registry, and my Fiance is against it. We ended up having a very small (by “very small” I mean 8 items total) registry with the most expensive item being $85, and all the other options <$50.

I honestly think that registries are a godsend for guests as they take all the guesswork out of the process. And I’m sure that just about everyone, regardless of their travels, will be happy to spend $20 on something they know you will find useful and keep for years to come!

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