thanks for all the responses ladies. to answer some of your questions….
1. he has been unemployed for a year. we live in nyc and thing are SUPER EXPENSIVE and there are no jobs. everyone is layiong people off. just how it is right now.
-he is looking. not like he is on his ass loving this life, lol
-he is a full time student studying to be a nurse and then med school.
some one asked how could he buy a ring with no job…he recieves unemployement which is only 60 dollars a week less than what he was getting when he was working.
-i am not asking for a ring that costs alot. he could put a $5 band on my finger and call it a day. i am not materialistic like that. dont get me wrong…i like pretty things just dont need them.
2. we have been together 2.5 years. i do believe he is committed to me …i just need more in order to stay in the relationship.
-i am almost 32, have 2 children, and i am in no position to date someone for 5 years and just see what happens with no end in sight.
-he is younger than me by 6 years
-we want to have at least one child together and i can’t do that forever so……lol
-i WILL NOT have another child out of wedlock and he knows this. been there done that!!
-he is very involved with my children, helps me, watches them when i need him to, etc.
like i said…we have talked about this. i have expressed my feelings to him. he says that he wants to marry me. we talk about our future all the time. we discuss how we want our wedding to be and where. it is not like i want this and he is being forced. he says he wants the same things too. this is why i dont get what the problem is. why has he not asked me??
i have a deadline of new years 2011. he doesn’t know this but if we are not engaged by then, i’m out. this may seem harsh but i don’t know what else to do. i love him very much and he is my best friend . i know it is counter productive to end something with a really good guy…but if not that then what do i do?