Post # 1
You know those shirts that have an arrow and say “My face is up here”? They are meant for men to stop looking at the boobs?
Well they need to make them for pregnancy too. Really, I know I’m starting to stick out there and I know your going to glace and thats perfectly fine. Go ahead ask me how far along I am and say my belly looks cute. I would love that! But if you don’t know me, would feel awkard to even give me a hug then why in the world do you feel the need to rub my giagantic, swollen uterus??? Do you even know where that thing has been or what it did before it was occupied by a baby?? If you thought about it then I can garauntee you wouldn’t be rubbing it!
Before I get the “I love my belly being rubbed!” posts remember I don’t mind my husband doing it, my mom or sister. I may even extend it to my extended family, but if I don’t know you then you don’t know the belly! Get it? got it? good!
Theres my hormonal rage today. =)
Post # 3
I would NEVER touch someone’s belly, the only exceptions being my sisters when they are pregnant and I have an invitation to do so, so I can’t imagine why people think it’s okay to do it to me without me saying it’s okay first. There’s one cousin of DH’s who started touching my belly at a family event this weekend. Thankfully she was the only one, but it’s really annoying.
Post # 4
I guess I’ve been really lucky so far. I’ve only had one person rub my belly and she is a friend of mine that asked first. I even have to remind my husband to feel my belly sometimes. I’m sorry you are dealing with random people thinking that is okay.
Post # 5
OMG, when I get pregnant some day, I will flip out on people who touch my stomach. Just because I’m pregnant doesn’t mean I’m not a person and you can pet me whenever you feel like it!
Post # 6
The only person I’m okay with is my hubby, whenever anyone else does it I swat them off and remind them that I’m not a freaking troll doll. It’s pretty annoying.
By The Way, I also hate when people say “WOW, you’re so big for 4 months!” Thanks jerk for making me feel all large!
Post # 7
And what about the people that say “You look tired” or “You look big, it looks like you are carrying twins!” Nice….
Why do people think it’s okay to say things like that? Then when you say that’s not nice, they get mad at you? How would they like it if someone said that to them?
Post # 8
I don’t want ANYONE doing the rub-the-belly thing. I am not a giant Buddha statue in a Chinese restaurant, and patting my stomach will not bring you luck. I’m only 18 weeks so I only barely have a bump, but my mother is driving me crazy with the way she wants to replace our usual “nice to see you” hug with the “squeal and lunge for stomach” move.
I’ve heard of several interesting ways to try to indicate to others that this is not ok, including touching their bellies right back!
Post # 9
The first time I touched a pregnant belly was about 3 weeks ago. I’m 30. And it’s a close friend who I went to college with and lived with for 3 years. I never realized how squishy it was. I was always under the impression that it’d be hard as a rock. Haha. But it took me 30 years to touch one and she basically had to drag my arm over there so I don’t know how people think it’s ok to touch without asking and/or doing it to a stranger.
Love the Troll doll reference!
Post # 11
@Lozza: Oh I love that one, although I do really want pickles, lol. But, that was a pre-pregnancy thing as well. 🙂
Post # 12
I’m not a mom, but I seriously do not understand how people think that really basic social rules somehow don’t apply to pregnant women. Would I go around putting my hand on a semi-stranger’s belly, esp. without asking? Of course not. Why would that change just because the belly is now round? For god’s sake.
I swear I would be tempted to shriek “oh my god why are you touching me?!” the next time someone pulls that. 🙂
Post # 13
haha i always get so flustered around pregnant women because i don’t want to say something offensive! i know not to touch the belly or say she looks big, but i’m always walking on eggshells because i’m so worried there’s something else just as bad that i don’t realize!
Post # 14
strangers touching you? that is totally icky.
I don’t even like shaking hands with people I don’t know.
I belly rubbed my friend, but she didn’t mind, and it was at her baby shower.
Post # 15
I’m not pregnant (yet!) but a friend of mine is. Her response to someone random touching her belly? “Ok, can I touch yours now?” And doing it.
Heh it cracks me up, I think you should that next time!!
Post # 16
The worst is extended family that are close enough that I don’t want to offend, but that are most definitely not close enough to me to be touching my belly. There’s not much to do in that situation. But I am all about being snarky to strangers that touch me.
Post # 17
@junebug12: I would, except I don’t like touching people as much as I don’t like them touching me. LOL