- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
They are probably saying that because they were used to the size of your previous ring. Maybe they think it’s a waste of money to upgrade, so they are trying to make you feel bad about it by saying “it’s too big.” There might be some jealousy in there too. I would just stop showing it to people, and if they commented rudely, I would call them on it. You don’t have to be mean back, but you can say, “You know, that’s a really rude comment. What do you expect me to say in response to that? I love my ring. I obviously don’t think it’s too big or I wouldn’t have bought it.”
Don’t reset it or change it!
Bling is king.
I think it’s lovely! My guess would be that the negative comments are coming from jealousy and or differences in taste. I’d wear it for sure, however! 🙂
Also, Im not jealous. I hate it when bees pop up everywhere with “she MUST be jealous if she doesn’t like your ring” – not true. I love your centre stone but I very much dislike the setting, mostly because it is very in-your-face and I think it detracts from that beauty tucked in the middle.
Not jelly jelly, just don’t like the ring.
pssshhh. It is amazing! I love it on you!
Everyone has their own line for when something is so much it looks gaudy to them. Mine’s rather conservative compared to many bees.
It does seem odd that your friends would give you unsolicited feedback though. Do you have this dynamic with them generally, telling each other when you honestly don’t like the other woman’s sweater, etc.? If so, it’s only natural that they would give their opinion about the ring. If in general everyone is always complimenting each other, I don’t know why they made an exception for your ring. The best thing is probably to ask them to elaborate, and if their elaboration doesn’t heal your wounded feelings, then tell them: they hurt your feelings. A good friend would feel sorry for doing that and make sure not to do it again. A crappy friend… is better off as an ex-friend.
The only thing that matters is how much you love the ring.
Perhaps I’m lucky but I honestly don’t have the sort of friends who’d dream of making that sort of comment and neither would I do similarly. If someone was thrilled with a new ring then I’d be delighted for them. Whether or not it was my taste is immaterial.
Personally I couldn’t wear a ring that large (I don’t even have an engagement ring because they don’t suit me) but my preferences wouldn’t make someone else’s ring “too big”.
I often think this type of unwanted comment is best answered with “Did you mean to be sound so rude?”
Looks gorgeous!! What part of Texas do u live in? I live in deep south Texas…an hour away from south pare island and 15-30 mins from Mexican border. here it’s common for married woman to not have a diamond ring…much less a wedding band. the majority of the population lives in poverty here. any diamond…no matter the size…is something major here. when ppl say it’s too big and make catty remarks…it’s usually a sign of envy and jealously. don’t let those ppl rain on your parade.
Who knows what people are thinking or what their motivations for saying things that they say are, all I can say is that it doesn’t matter if they are jealous, trying to make you feel bad/good, or that it just isn’t their taste, because whatever their reasons, it doesn’t change the fact that you love your ring and that it is yours and not theirs. Rock on (pun intended) girl!
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