(Closed) Don't understand …got new ring and they are saying it looks too big

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 78
1891 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

It is beyond gorgeous IMO! I would assume others are a bit jealous. It is a stunner for sure. 

I have noticed a few eyes at mine, it’s a 1.51 and I’m young- 21, but I’m in love with it! All that counts.  

Post # 79
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2000

Well, I happen to agree with their assessment.  Without the halo, I think it would be a really nice size.  The halo makes the ring so wide that you can’t see your finger.  The scale of the ring is “off” In proportion to your finger.  

However, your opinion is the only one that matters.  Don’t solicit anyone’s opinion.

Post # 80
3617 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@Inlove2001:  Cowabunga! That’s real pretty.

Post # 80
116 posts
Blushing bee

the bigger the better! love it – looks perfect on you!

Post # 82
107 posts
Blushing bee

I think it is a beautiful ring. It is not too big. Perhaps they say that because they were not expecting you to get something like that? Either way if they don’t like it that is thier problem. Poo poo to them for even saying that…so rude. 

Post # 83
35 posts
  • Wedding: August 2014

Yeah…I’d say a visit from the green eyed monster is more to blame for these comments than your actual ring. It’s gorgeous!!!

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Post # 84
30 posts
  • Wedding: August 2014 - Monponsett Inn


Inlove2001:  Oh your ring is absolutely gorgeous! I love it! I think it’s unncessarily rude and mean for those people to offer unwanted opinions/criticism. I can’t see how anyone could not think it’s beautiful. Come on, it’s drool-worthy. 😀  Maybe they’re envious or maybe it’s not their taste [or maybe they’re blind heh] but as long as you love it, that’s what matters.

Post # 85
720 posts
Busy bee

Uh-mazing. So pretty congrats. People are weird. Lol

Post # 86
333 posts
Helper bee

BEAUTIFUL!  Gosh, that’s a fantastic ring.

To me, the best stone size is one that covers your whole finger.  😀  Haha!

People say things like, “Oh, that isn’t in proportion to your finger/hand/whatever…”  I mean, seriously, who comes up with these “correct proportions?”  Is there some rule I haven’t heard of?  Bleh.

Post # 87
709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Zhabeego:  You: “No, it fits just fine. he had it sized.”



Omg I totally used this on someone the other day!  

Post # 88
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Inlove2001:  I know I am late, but I just found this thread. 

Personally, I like your ring… but I am a fan of finger coverage, (some) halos and larger stones. I also love solitaires! Go figure. 

As a few bees have pointed out, we all have different preferences. What I loath, you may love and vice versa. 

What stands out to me is that your FRIENDS were saying this to you… sister dynamics are different, so I won’t touch that. You have to be the kind of person who is confident and sure of YOUR decisions. IMO (from past personal) experience, if you aren’t people feel okay overstepping boundaries. 

It is not necessary to comment on your ring no matter HOW they feel and I am alarmed that MANY people felt comfortable addressing you that way. Hope you got it resolved. If yhey do that with you ring…

How did you end up handling it? Kind regards! ♡ Xo ♡ 

Post # 89
693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Inlove2001:  you know what is kind of irritating about wedding be? if people make a nasty or rude or underhanded dig about “smaller” diamonds or rings, then mostly all bees agree that those women are bitches and rude and nasty…etc. there is NO EXCUSE FOR THAT! 

buuttttt, if people make rude, or mean, or underhanded digs about bigger diamonds or rings…well, then there are a LARGE number of bees who will jump in and defend those comments as “just being a matter of taste and opinion” and whatever else. & don’t even get me started on the ones who will start attacking the “quality” of a large diamond. UGH. 

Anyway, my point is that your ring is GORGEOUS and big and sparkly and definitely enviable. and just really, really, beautiful. Congrats on 10 years of marriage too! enjoy the ring and take the comments about it being too big as jealous or envious women not knowing how to be gracious. 

Post # 90
1344 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

ashleearielle:  I think the difference is that when a ring is small, people usually aren’t jealous. They are being judgemental about why the bride doesn’t have a big ring. Whether its for budget reasons, she doesn’t like flashy things or logistical reasons (she works with her hands, etc), nobody should be judging someone for having a ring “too small”. It’s rude and unnecessary.

i do think this Bee’s ring is gorgeous and wish it was mine!

on the flip side, there are some rings (Kim k) that are TOO big. It actually looks HEAVY and just beyond showing off. I have a ring that weighs like 10 grams or something, and it makes my finger sore sometimes. 

Also, I worry about the human rights issues in countries that mine diamonds. Having something that big means it probably came from debeers and I also don’t support their monopoly on the diamond industry. 

so I can understand why some people chalk up big rings to a personal preference. But I don’t think anyone should be rude. Questioning it’s quality or even just saying it’s too big, is just plain rude IMO. 

If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all is what I like to live by. 

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