(Closed) Don't want a Yawn Fest of a shower.

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
1274 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sorry that no one has offered to throw your shower in your family or your FI’s. Do you want to have a shower? Or are you doing it because our family wants you to have one? If it’s the latter maybe you could gently ask the people who mentioned it if they wanted to throw it? That way you don’t have to do the planning of it at all…after all you’re the bride! You’re planning your own wedding, so planning a shower too, is a lot on your plate!!


EDIT: Logistically, not sure how opening at the door would work though since that’s your actual question. That’s a LOT of people. I would probably just try to start the gift opening early where people can kind of come in and mill about while you’re opening gifts and snack and get food at the same time. 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by  jlc3.
Post # 3
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I agree with jlc3:  that maybe you should ask a family member that insists on it if they would consider throwing you one or even just “hosting” it. The idea of you inviting 80 people and starting with presents from the get go would probably rub me the wrong way if I was an attendee. I say spend the first 20-30 min. just greeting everyone and put out some food to nibble on. Maybe it doesn’t have to be a yawn fest? 

Post # 6
1634 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Make it a display shower. Ask guests to bring unwrapped gifts. Set up the gift table with various heights of stands to set gifts on. You could even create signage for the types of gifts ie kitchen/ linen/ lingerie/beauty-relaxation etc.

You and your guests can walk around the gift table and admire what you received, but you would not have to open a single present.

Post # 7
1634 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Soon2bMackey:  a moment with each guest initially will take just as long and leave your other guests waiting for you to join them at your shower. 

You could always open the gifts after the shower. Are you planning your own games and activities?

Post # 8
46983 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Is there a reason you need to invite so many people? 80 is a huge number of shower guests. (leaving aside the whole planning your own shower  discussion).

Post # 9
36 posts

This is just super tacky. I’m sorry. I know it’s planned but have someone step in to make it seem like you didn’t throw this yourself. Also, don’t rip the gifts open in as soon as they get there. This seems so embarrassing for the guests. Please try to look at how inappropriate this looks from an outside perspective. People will be super turned off to come to a huge shower you threw for yourself and have you rip the presents open at the door. 

Post # 11
2598 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Soon2bMackey:  Immediately diving into the gifts at a shower you planned for yourself isn’t going to look very good.  It’s going to come off as a gift grab/please hurry up and leave event. 

If it’s too late to ask someone else go host – even if only in name, then your focus really needs to be on providing hospitality to your guests and letting them know in every way possible that you are delighted they want go celebrate you.  

Offer plentiful food and drink, something fun to do – a game or some sort of activity – we decorated cupcakes we then ate at mine – make sure you spend time with each and every guest and save opening of thegifts for   after all that.  When you open the gifts, be grateful and focus on the sentiment – not the goods.

Post # 13
490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

A close family friend threw Fiance & I our shower and it was great!  Coed, lots of drinks, good food and we opened the presents later at home so we didn’t have to open them in front of a million people.  It was just like a normal party!

Post # 14
6107 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


CurlyCue:  I think your idea is awesome! The OP could greet guests as they come in, admire the gift for a second/say thank you, and then have them place it on the table for everyone else to see.

Post # 15
1634 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Soon2bMackey:  how many people are invitdd to your wedding? 80 ladies would be all the female guests at my wedding even the ones that are friends or family of my husband. 

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