(Closed) Dont want ceremony religious but want to incorporate traditions

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

honestly, you can do anything you want..specially if the officant is not a religous one. my previous marriage we were married by a mayor and we incorporated several things, including the broom and our own vows!

good luck

Post # 5
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I would ask him if he has any objections to any religous or cultural things you want to incoporate… i would ask him if hes ok with your reading of the vows and if he has any requirements of you. How soon he wants the deposit to secure date, etc

Also, i would ask him about the signing of the license and if he will be the one returning it to the courthouse,  you would need to make sure you have 2 witnesses there to sign.

and lastly, i dont know your budget or venue, but i found if you DO invite them to stay on for the meal- most time they DONT but they tend to soften and feel honored.


Post # 6
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

@lindseyl06:  I am a religious officiant, but I do a lot of secular ceremonies. Just so you understand “sand” and “jumping the broom” are not religious. They are ways to show unity and marriage, but they are not religious.

Items you might want to consider –

  • Does he have a set ceremony that he uses or can you create your own?
  • May you write your own vows?
  • Does he have examples – ceremony, vows, unity….
  • Ask about a contract
  • As mentioned above ask about who is responsible for filing the license after the ceremony.
  • Make sure you know how many witnesses you need. Some states do not require witnesses.
  • Ask about payment set-up – booking and remaining amount, when are they due.
  • What is his fee for rehearsals?
  • Does he have a substitute if he is unable to officiant your ceremony?

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