(Closed) Don't want dad to walk me down aisle

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 16
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2833 posts
Sugar bee

Ive never seen my dad as a father figure. He doesnt hold that spot in my life.

If we end up having a church ceremony, we’ll be practicing the “Swedish tradition” where the bride and groom walk together. I like that symbol much more. There will be no father/daughter dance and mY Fiance did not ask for his blessing. 

Do what’s right for you. Just simply say you want to walk alone and that it’s the more modern thing now days if he pushes on it. Or if you have your son instead then I think that’s a good enough reason in itself to tell him. Good luck!

Post # 18
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7 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Hi KBelle12,

While my circumstances are different than yours, I too am not having my dad walk me down the aisle. My Fiance and I are going to be walking together, as partners, which is a scandanavian tradition. We will be following my parents and other couples as a symbolism of their importance in our lives. 

My dad did not love this idea when I told him about it. However, it’s important to me to not be handed off from father to FI; it’s not a tradition that I do not feel comfortable continuing. However, I think it is helpful that he and my mom will be honored and recognized in the ceremony — just in a different way.  Perhaps there is a different way for you to incorporate him/your other family members into the ceremony? 

Regardless of your choice, it might be a good idea to speak to your dad in advance about what you are thinking so that he has ample time to consider it before the wedding and just explain how meaningful it will be for you to have your son walk you down. In the end, follow what’s right for you. I am sure it will be a very meaningful moment for you son — he may not truly appreciate until he is older, but the photos will be great. 🙂

Post # 19
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51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’m not having my dad walk me down the aisle because I personally think it’s kind of weird. Then again, I think a lot of things surorunding wedding ceremonies are kinda strange, but that is just my personal opinion, and in the end, I believe everyone should just do whatever makes them happy. If we decide to have an aisle, my fiance and I will walk in together. Otherwise, we’ll probably just have our ceremony musician just make an announcement that the wedding is going to begin, and ask everyone to take their seats, and then we’ll just go stand up front. We’re also having no bridal party.

Post # 20
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2833 posts
Sugar bee

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KBelle12:  Lol yes, she’s such a goof. Just turned seven months. She’s our first shar pei.

Post # 21
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74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I love my dad to bits and have always felt closer to him than my mom. That said, I won’t have my dad (or anyone) walking me down the aisle.  It’s not a tradition I like because of the history and symbolism of it – as if a woman is the chattel of the men in her life and is handed off from one to the next. It’s just not something the feminist in me can go along with. 

I love the idea of you walking down the aisle with your son!  

 

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