Post # 1
I 100% don’t want my father to walk me down the aisle. I have my reasons, so don’t ask why. I’d rather walk with my daughter, who will be four at the time. If she gets nervous, or something like that, and doesn’t want to walk when it comes time, I’d rather walk alone than with him. I’m pretty sure he wants to walk me down the aisle, so is there a nice way to tell him I don’t want him to?
Post # 3
I had the same issue. My 4 yr old son is giving me away. I finally point blank told my dad that he is not giving me away, my son is. Just be straight up with him.
Post # 4
@mvest: Did it cause bad blood between the two of you?
Post # 5
I told my Dad I didn’t want him to walk me and it was fine! There are a lot of reasons to skip that tradition that have nothing to do with him or your relationship.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Many brides walk themselves down. You aren’t some 15 year old girl being given in marriage to some guy you don’t know because it’s an advantageous match form your parents’ point of view. You are an adult and you have a child. You don’t belong to anyone else to be given away anyway.
Post # 7
I would just tell him that as I am a grown woman with a child, I don’t feel comfortable having him escort me and “give me away”.
Post # 8
@Mrs. Bear Cheese Pie: If it did, he doesn’t let on to it. We don’t talk much anyway & when we do it always ends in an argument so Im not seeing a difference. (As a side note: I describe him to people as the pissed off version of eeyore. Thats his attitude 24/7 unless my sister is back. Then its all lovely dovey towards her.)
Post # 9
Thank you for starting this thread. My Fiance and I decided months ago to walk down together. My dad and I are weird, everyone says it’s bc we act so much alike. We don’t have a close/lovey-dovey relationship and I am in my late 20s and pretty independent. I think it may bother him a little—it turns out he was actually kind of “miffed”, my Fiance didn’t ask for my hand. I was like seriously??? I’m G-R-O-W-N and my Fiance and I got engaged after about six months during which he’d ran a convo with my dad maybe 3 times.
But I digress, I plan to tell him next week at a family gathering bc he is starting to ask more wedding-related questions. I am going to tell him that we are planning to walk down the aisle together to symbolize the start of our journey together. I do think I will have him say a prayer at the start of the ceremony though.
Post # 10
I feel the same way… My dad and I get along fine and I’d like to honor him a different way. I really want my dad to walk with my mom, because my mom is mostly deaf and has crippling social anxiety, and he’s really her rock. I don’t want them to be apart at all if possible. Ideally, I’d enter alone, last, and my groom would walk halfway up the aisle to meet me, and we’d walk to the front together from there.