- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2009
I didn’t put this in the babies board, because… well…I just didn’t. I guess I feel weird about posting in there because I don’t actually HAVE children yet, and I’m not prego, sooo… I put it in newlyweds because I AM a newlywed and this is something that I have thought about off and on, since, ya know, sometimes kids just happen 😉
First off let me say I absolutely ADORE my husband’s parents. They are awesome people, they love me to death and have always made me feel like part of the family, from the moment he and I first started dating. I don’t like the idea of anything ever coming between us or putting strain on that relationship.
With that being said, I have to get to the topic here. The ONLY thing that bothers me, is that they are smokers. It doesn’t bother me as in “Ooh, they are bad people because they smoke” because that’s simply not true. It bothers me as in “It’s really bad for their health (& ours when we visit them) and I don’t see them quitting any time soon.”
Now, I have known many a smoker in my day, and if there’s one thing I’ve learned in life it is that smokers are highly defensive about their cigs. They can stare you down for HOURS without blinking and turn your skin to STONE. Ok, maybe not that bad but you get the idea.. Anywho, so I’m definately not going to be talking to them about what’s good for their health because 1) Surgeon general already did that 2) The DOCTOR already did that (his dad had a stroke awhile back) and 3) They are adults.
The point is, WHEN I have children, I do not want to subject them to a smoke-filled room for hours while we visit. It’s hard enough for ME when we go over there, and I have the option of going outside to get a breather. My mom was a smoker until I was 10 years old and when she quit I was SO happy. I was happy because even at 10 I knew it was bad for her AND I was happy I could breathe clean air for once! It makes me SO FREAKING MAD when I see smokers who TRAP their babies or pets in a car/room/house whatever with that toxic crap and the poor things have no way to escape!
I think about this stuff more than hubby does, and since we’re not even TALKING about having kids right now, he would probably think I’m just “looking for things to stress about.” It might even make him downright mad if I said “When we have kids, I don’t want to take them to your parent’s house because they smoke too much and I don’t want them around that.” Honestly though, that’s what I feel like saying every time I think about it 🙁
I love his parents and definately want them to be part of our future children’s lives, but I also plan on trying to protect my children from things that are within my control, and that includes keeping them away from second-hand smoke.
Comments? Suggestions? Experience?