(Closed) DON'T WANT ROUND DIAMOND BECAUSE OF FMIL

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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7437 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Well your round will be bigger, so youhmmm got her there! This all sounds kind of petty.

Post # 5
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568 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I feel like if yours is bigger than she wouldnt say anything cuz in our society bigger is better. Get the ring YOU love! it sounds like a snarky remark will come your way no matter what, and if it does just say well i love my ring and think its the most gorgeous one i have ever seen. that will shut her up!

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think this is a case of damned if you do, damned if you don’t.  If she’s as much that way I could just as much see her having something to say about your terrible taste if you alter a classic Tiffany setting.  I say do what makes you and your fiance happy.  I think it’s worth putting up with one comment to end up with the ring you want forever.

Post # 7
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9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

You’re giving your Future Mother-In-Law way too much control over your life. Get whatever ring you like best. Don’t feel like you need to compare with hers. And if she feels the need, just say “Yes, my ring’s very beautiful but what makes it special is the man who gave it to me.”

Post # 8
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3232 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Your inlaws are going to say something no matter what you get.  Move on because you will hear a snarky comment from her now until the day she dies.  Harsh but it is just reality.  MILs are an unfortunate part of married life unless you are amongst the few who actually have a Mother-In-Law you love.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@amanda1221:  I’m sorry this happened to you.  I have a friend in the same situation. Her inlaws put her through school and loved her until her SIL decided she needed to openly hate her.

Post # 12
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569 posts
Busy bee

@amanda1221:  get what you want and don’t take any one else into consideration!

Post # 13
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973 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

She sounds like the type to say “Oh, you got that funny shaped diamond, not a REAL engagement stone like mine!”. Like others said, nothing you do will be right so why bother?!

Get what you want, chalk anything she says up to crazy family, period. Sorry you’re in this situation!

Post # 14
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2497 posts
Buzzing bee

Maybe this is just me, but I don’t understand how anyone could be upset with a 3.5 carat diamond that also happens to be bigger than her snarky FMIL’s diamond.

Post # 16
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649 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

The best way to stick it to her is to not let her or your dislike of her affect your decision in any way.  If you really wanted round, get round without worrying about what she will say. By worrying and making decisions around what she will say, you are giving her undue power. 

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