(Closed) DON'T WANT ROUND DIAMOND BECAUSE OF FMIL

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 18
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730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@amanda1221:  Please keep us updated on the ring and the comments you receive from evil Future Mother-In-Law.

 

If this woman is as bad as you paint her to be, she will ALWAYS find something to nit pick about.  I would tell you to just do what makes YOU happy, and not worry about her petty little remarks.  That will simply make her look like a fool.  Don’t give her the satisfaction.

 

 

Post # 19
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2354 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@amanda1221:  Out of all the problems to have in life, deciding between 2ct diamonds is not one of them. 

Take a deep breath, and let it go. 

Post # 20
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Hey, remember that the ring is coming from your Fiance, who is also her son. If she makes a comment about how similar it is to hers, just say that her son has great taste and must have gotten it from her!

Post # 21
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628 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@amanda1221:  Get what you want regardless of whatever comments she would/could make.

Sorry, OP, but she’s going to make comments no matter what.  Don’t let her control your opinions because of what she may or may not do, because how awful would it be to pick something you don’t really like and she still make a comment over it?

Post # 23
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93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think you will love the ring no matter what and that, as you asked, yes you are being ‘crazy’! if it so important to him that he picks it out then let him do so! Especially if he is paying for it! Nobody else’s ring will even compare to its glory when it is on your own finger. 

Post # 24
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7556 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

Get what you and your Fiance want. You are second guessing you Future Mother-In-Law for a start. If my BF wanted to buy me a lovely ring I probably wouldn’t give two monkeys what his mother thought as long as I liked it. Yes, she may say something spiteful but if she is that bad it won’t be that last time. Would you not have kids in case she said something?, would you avoid buying your dream home in case she said something nasty? No, probably not.

Just enjoy your ring and your SO. Plus there will be plenty of people sayinh WOW, HOLY COW, THAT RING IS AMAZING to outweigh anything negative she MAY say. 🙂

Post # 25
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4134 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Get what you want, but I agree that this is all so silly. If this were me I would have either stopped talking to them or had a big public confrontation about it a long time ago, I don’t know how you’re dealing with it.

Post # 26
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2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

There should be a topic dedicated to MILs….lol. My Mother-In-Law is very similar. I only get back handed “compliments” from her. Apparently when DH told her he bought me an ering she got upset because she didn’t have a say. I’m scared to think about what I would have ended up with if she had a say…..a lump of coal?

My advice on the ring: Get what you and your SO like. That’s all that matters. Like PPs said your Mother-In-Law will snark regardless of what you get. When your Mother-In-Law snarks just smile politely and try to ignore her. I sing a song to myself to tune her out, literally. Otherwise I might snap and snark back. So I probably look creepy with a smile plastered on my face whenever I’m around Mother-In-Law.

Post # 27
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9168 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

get whatever you want. an expensive piece of jewelry you have to wear for the rest of your life isn’t the time to be petty.

Post # 28
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2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Get what you love and have always wanted.  Kill her with kindness.  “Yes, it is lovely, you’ve raised a man with incredible taste.  In women and jewelry, haha.” 

There’s no Chinese tradition for wearing wedding bands so my Mother-In-Law doesn’t even have one.  Father-In-Law thought about getting her an anniversary gift so we took her shopping and she was picking out rings exactly like mine.  I was flattered, I suppose.  🙂

Post # 29
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@amanda1221:  Pfft. She sounds like the type of woman who will have something to say no matter what, so you may as well just do what makes you happy! You’ll never please her, so don’t waste your energy trying 🙂

Also, I might cry if you don’t come back with pics of a 3.5ct round stone for us.

Post # 31
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4134 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@amanda1221:  That’s a good outlook. As long as your Fiance is on your side, it will be fine. If not, then you might have problems down the road.

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