posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@amanda1221:  I’ll be tickled pink if you come back with 3.5cts of anything for us 🙂 I just want pics!

Post # 33
1231 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

lol…This is just me being bitchy, but I say get the huge round and shove it in your MIL’s face. I usually wouldn’t suggest doing something so petty, but sometimes it can be a cheap thrill.  I’m also feeling particularly fiesty at the moment because someone in my life is trying to drag me down into their one-sided war as well and it does get tiring.

FYI, if you really love pears, they do face up really large. A 3.5 carat pear would be huge! 😉

Post # 34
1224 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

I agree with PPs who have encouraged you to get what you love! You’ll be wearing it your whole life, and unfortunately, as other posters have said, your Future Mother-In-Law is likely to have something to say about whatever choice you make (so you might as well really love it). In the end, I wonder if you might resent her more because you chose a ring other thank what you wanted to avoid a confrontation.

Lastly, I know where you are coming from with your Future Sister-In-Law, unfortunately (though mine hasn’t brought my Mother-In-Law into it). We aren’t the best of friends, but we have had a few open conversations (with SIL and DH) and it is getting slowly better. I wonder if there will be opportunities to talk more once you are married so that you can move past this. So sorry it’s happening.

Post # 36
777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@amanda1221:  Pick the ring you like best, honey. It’s ‘mind over matter’ regarding Future Mother-In-Law, You shouldn’t mind, because she doesn’t matter. If she snarks about your ring, you can always use a ‘customer service phrase’ to reply: “I appreciate how you feel in regards to that matter.” Then walk away. If she keeps snarking, just smile and thank her for the input. Eventually she’ll get the hint that you aren’t going to be baited and hopefully will lay off. Good luck!

Post # 37
706 posts
Busy bee

Why doesn’t he just buy his own setting and give you what he wants you do thave.

Post # 38
293 posts
Helper bee

“Yes, it does look like yours, only MUCH bigger.” (sweetly smiling).

I’d say get a different setting alltogether.

Post # 39
1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@amanda1221:  If your SO can afford a 3.5 ct diamond, then he can afford to let you pick a unique setting you love.  If Future Mother-In-Law says something about you not taking her mother’s setting, just say you don’t want to take the setting away from Future Sister-In-Law.

Don’t know what to tell you about Future Sister-In-Law…what does your SO say about the way she treats you, and the way your Future Mother-In-Law treats you when she’s around?

Post # 42
2812 posts
Sugar bee

@NovaRising:  +1,000

OP Get what you love regardless. She can say your pear looks like an egg and can find something bad to say about whatever shape you get.

Plus if in your heart you were set on round and you are now getting pear just because it’s your second option that can lead to major ring regret once the witch is dead (ooops did I say that outloud?) Sealed



Post # 44
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If she says “Oh, nice ring, looks just like mine.” you could deflate her snarkiness by taking it as a compliment and reply with “I guess we both picked men with great taste.” then wink at her and smile.

Post # 45
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

as long as its a bigger diamond that hers id be happy LOL

Post # 46
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Sounds like she wants you to feel bad so you WON’T want the ring and she’ll get it. If your FH wants you to have it, you should wear it and keep it BRIGHTLY POLISHED when she is around! I have a Future Sister-In-Law who thinks she universe revolves around her so I understand…this woman re-writes history all the time….I wish you nothing but the best!

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