Post # 1
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Helper bee
I’ve posted before that I recently had a small ceremony with immediate family and married my dream man! Now… while I always knew I would be emotional during my ceremony… what I didn’t expect was to cry like an absolute baby. I’m talking ugly sobs, snot rag, having to pause things to hug Darling Husband…all of it. Thankfully I wasn’t at all embarrassed because like I said it was in front of immediate family so we laughed it off. All seems fine and well but now I’m terrified that next year during our formal wedding/renewal of vows I’m going to cry like an idiot all over again!
Please tell me I’m not alone! Did anyone else cry their eyes out? Any tips or pointers to help me keep my composure?
Post # 3
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Worker bee
Well, that’s not as bad as crying EVERYTIME you hear you wedding video songs. In your case, it was expected that you would cry and it only happened durign your ceremony. I was driving to work no too long ago and “our song” began to play and of course, I started crying because it is a reminder of the best day of my life. This happens to me all the time!!! I really hope that I NEVER hear this song in a public place like store or something. 🙂
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
I’m so afraid this is going to happen to me. I see other people’s weddings or wedding videos and start to cry. :/ You’re not alone!
Oh, tips…um. Is there some kind of supplemental antidepressant? LOL. I’ll be watching this thread closely.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
I’m getting married on May 27th and I cry… like… constantly. Its a new thing, too. Its just a wedding thing. I cry when I read certain things about wedding. See pictures, hear songs… Watch other people’s weddings on tv. its insane. I have never been this crazy. Well, at any rate I hear the trick is to just practice practice practice. The more it feels like a routine, the less you feel when you say it. (I know that sounds awful but I feel it may be the only way haha). Kind of like (for you Catholics out there) The Our Father. Do you actually hear those words when you speak them? I surely don’t haha. Try rehearsing! And if you cry, you cry. I think its more meaningful that way, anyways! Also, another tip is if you feel like you are gonna cry try not to hold it in. You wont be able to hold it anyways and your face looks funnier when you are trying to choke back a sob haha.
Maybe try crying prettily! Good luck! … To us all lol.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
Ooh! Or tell him to make faces at you!
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
I teared up a lot during our vows and used my old trick: Look straight up for about five seconds and the tears should die down a bit. Rinse and repeat!
Post # 8
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Busy bee
@hannathehamster: Aww that is so sweet!
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
My husband was the sobbing one, and like you not just silent tears down his face. We’re talking the tears choking, body shaking, even some snorting b/c it was his internal battle of trying to keep it in, but instead it made the sobbing even louder.
This of course made me waterfalls, so we were just wet faced messes.
Honey, after this, just let it flow b/c fighting the tears might even be louder, haha 🙂
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Busy bee
Post # 11
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Busy bee
I’m so worried about this too! I’m a crier. My thing is if I see other people crying, it makes me cry. I know I’m going to be a mess! Thanks for this thread!
Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
Please oh please tell me ticks on not crying. I’m a crier to and soooo do not want to do that on my wedding day
Post # 13
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Busy bee
Gah! This is such a fear of mine. Happy tears are lovely, but I’m worried that I’m going to be sobbing and like gagging on my vows, lol!! I can’t remember where I read it, but someone’s wedding planner had given her a little rhyme to repeat in her head to stop her from crying. Another Bee had posted in another thread that throughout the day she kept repeating “The Saints are undefeated” as her little mantra. Hehe, I thought that was cute.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
@AnnieAAA: This sounds alllll too familiar. But you make a very good point about fighting them back making it louder/more strange sounding haha
Some how I managed to make my vows audible, but like .30-1min into the ceremony I had to stop and give Darling Husband a hug to try and compose myself.
@Adriana.Niva: This is somewhat new for me too. Like within the past 3-4 years. The weird thing is, everyone I knew growing up who sees me cry now is like WTF? You’re crying? I never used to cry! I tried the practicing thing briefly, but just so I wouldn’t fumble my words (I had tears every time I practiced) but with this new goal in mind it could help!
Thanks everyone for your tips and stories!
