(Closed) Don't want to be ungrateful but don't want him to waste money

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
2590 posts
Sugar bee

kimmo416:  Oooh tough. I think i would bite the bullet and accept the gift graciously. Perhaps you could find a use for it – like using for a make up bag? Or just packing your blow dryer and some pairs of socks – just find a way to use it lol. 

Post # 3
20 posts
  • Wedding: March 2015

Is it returnable?  I would guess a Gilt coupon isn’t. If the money’s gone, what’s the purpose of hurting his feelings? I don’t see what being tight on finances has to do with it since the money’s been spent already? Also, the mini longchamp bags carry a deceptive amount of stuff, so you might like it more than you’re anticipating anyway!

Post # 5
5955 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

kimmo416:  Tough one. 

In my relationship, I would probably be honest with him.  The reality is that I don’t really like the idea of my husband surprising me with expensive gifts.  I guess it’s not my “love language” (barf, but true) or whatever and I want to change that dynamic in my relationship.  I’m also super particular about spending money and about bringing material objects into my life.  Also my Darling Husband is not a big gift giver, so I really don’t think he’d be insulted.

Your relationship might be different though…if you think your Darling Husband will be really hurt, I’d just keep it and use it as a purse or whatever.

Post # 6
5955 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

kimmo416:  “I don’t think it’s returnable since it’s Gilt.”

<br />Oh, well if it’s not returnable then don’t mention it.  There is no benefit if you can’t return it.

Post # 7
1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

kimmo416:  Can you get a credit amount for it at Gilt? You can with all the Gilt like websites here in Australia so I wondered. If you can then I would let him know it’s too small and return it for credit so when a nice travel bag becomes available on there next time you can buy it?


I had to tell my Darling Husband once I wasn’t a fan of a gift he gave me and it was fine. I asked for a watch and said nothing too small/thin banded and he got me a thin banded watch. I just kindly reminded him that I was not a fan of thin banded watches (as we had discussed, lol) and he agreed once he saw it on my wrist that I needed a thicker band. He felt a bit guilty for mucking it up but that was all.  We went together to choose my replacement.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 4 months ago by  Lollybags.
Post # 9
14657 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have all three sizes and the smallest one is surprisingly roomy for such a small looking bag.  I can fit a long wallet, tablet, water, umbrella, and even a thin sweater.  I don’t use it much, but i still love it.  I do use the largest one for travel though so I can carry a SLR and more.  Im pretty sure it should be around 60 if it was on sale at gilt, which isn’t *too* bad, a dinner date.  At least it wasn’t a 250+ bag that you think you’d never use.  I think it’s sweety he tried to buy you a bag and listened to what you wanted.  Dh would never support my bag habit or listens top anything I say about them!

Post # 10
718 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Not sure what you should do, but I do know you can return things to Gilt, my boss orders stuff all the time and I send things back often. 

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