(Closed) Don't want to celebrate father's day this year…

posted 7 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
10644 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Your feelings are very valid!

I would suggest doing something that has meaning about your relationship with your dad though.  If you stay in, watch a movie you liked together.  Go to a restaurant maybe with your Father-In-Law that your dad liked.

Post # 4
7644 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Your feels are definitely valid! Like PP said do something that has meaning. Although sometimes it is nice just to chill out and be alone for some you time. Your Darling Husband and his family should understand your situation and choice in this matter.

Sorry to hear about your dad.

Post # 5
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I am in the same boat. My dad passed away unexpectedly this past February. There is still so much raw emotion that I have been dreading Father’s Day for the past couple months.

I’m considering staying home and wallowing in my own emotions but I’m pretty sure that isn’t the most healthy approach so I don’t have any advice for you.

I’ll be thinking about you on Sunday, though! *hugs*



Post # 6
11165 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@kmarie719:  My grandfather who raised me (so he was the only dad I know) died in March and I completely agree that this father’s day just doesn’t feel the same. It will be the first time I don’t mail him a card and a gift and call him up to wish him a happy day. Is is the first father’s day that I don’t actually have a “father” and it is killing me.

Your feelings are completey validated and your aren’t alone. I am sorry you too are dealing with this and I hope that your PJS, comfort food and puppies can bring a little joy to the day. My thoughts are with you.

Post # 9
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My dad died in a car accident in July and DH’s dad passed away when he was 9, so on Father’s Day we’ll be going to both cemetaries and putting flowers and cards on their headstones, like we always do. But I totally understand not wanting to do anything or go anywhere… A friend’s party happens to be on the first anniversary of my dad’s death, so I’m considering not going. I wouldn’t do anything you don’t feel up to doing.

Post # 10
7640 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kmarie719:  I’m sorry for you. Not only are your feelings valid, I contend that your plan is completely appropriate. FIL is DH’s father, not yours. On Fathers’ Day, he can and should visit his father, while you spend FD remembering yours. Your husband should be able to say to his parents, “Kmarie is home mourning her father today”.

Stay home or do exactly what you want. (In fact, if you’re close to your mother, perhaps visit her instead).

DH’s mother died many years ago. Very often I visit my mother without him on Mothers’ Day.

Post # 11
2117 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

yeah i wouldnt go either. I lost my father eight years ago ( i was 17) and at the time it was a couple days before fathers day.  this year the anniversary falls right on it so i really dont feel like doing it. Or seeing fathers day every where or anything. a couple years ago my Fiance and I lost our dog (wasnt even a year yet) the day before the anniversary. so june has always felt like a bad luck month to me.   Thats always been really hard for me. My Fiance brother’s birthday is always the day after so there are usually parties surrounding it.

I dont think your Fiance will mind at all or his family.

Post # 12
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

Completely valid feelings! I lost my mom almost four years ago and the first mother’s day after she passed I stayed at home and slept most of the day, It made it more bearable not being out in “the real world” bombarded with mothers day stuff. Even now, four years later Darling Husband understands that depending on how i’m feeling, sometimes I can handle celebrating with his mom and sometimes I need to be left by myself. You cannot feel guilty or selfish for feeling how you do and doing what is best for you emotionally. 

Post # 13
1186 posts
Bumble bee

@kmarie719:  I think your Fiance would totally understand, as well as anyone else that you’re close to if that’s how you’d prefer to grieve for your first father’s day without Papa. 


Many hugs, definitely a day to reflect on your late father, and get excited for future father’s day with your husgand. Take care of yourself and do anything you can to get through the day.

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