(Closed) Don't want to do a money dance but need to tell guests?!

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I think you are thinking too much into it.  If they bring cash assuming there will be a money dance, and you don’t do a money dance, than they will just hold on to their money. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I went to a wedding recently that had small notecards and envelopes next to the card box saying to leave your best wishes for the happy couple. (They didn’t do a traditional guest book.) If something like that would work for you, anyone who planned to gift you cash during the money dance could slip it inside an envelope.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I wouldn’t mention it. If someone wants to gift you some cash, they’ll figure out a way. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

You tell guests that you aren’t doing it by not mentioning it. Done.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

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jojo1990 :  how much money do they usually pin?

seems like they can just give u the money if they really want to.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Just don’t do the dance. Anyone who wanted to give you money and couldn’t will just mail a check. Or just be grateful that your friends get to keep their heard-earned cash. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I guess I don’t understand the problem.  If people bring money and you don’t do the money dance they can just keep the money, right?  If they’re already bringing money for a gift why would they need to hand you the cash for the money dance that isn’t happening?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I’m not even engaged yet and my SO’s mother is already telling me about the money dance and how I have to do it so her Filipino relatives will give me more money (spoiler alert: I’m not doing it).

Just don’t mention it. If your family shows up with money, and you don’t do the money dance, they’ll find a way to get it to you if they really want to.

At the very most, tell your parents that you aren’t doing the money dance, and it’s very likely that it’ll get around through word of mouth.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

OP, to your question of where you put the cash…well, where would you put it for the rest of the evening if they did pin it on you during a money dance? I’m sure you wouldn’t wear it for the next couple of hours. The solution to your problem is the same as if you were doing the dance.

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