(Closed) Don’t want to do the right thing…

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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5495 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Don’t invite him if you don’t want too. What’s the point if he’s the one who cut off the contact?

Post # 18
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3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

An invitation is a form of communication.  He said no more communication, and no communication = no invitation…it was all his decision, not yours.  Do not send one.

Post # 19
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674 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m going to disagree about the statement on if you want a relationship with them then you have to invite them.

He doens’t want anything to do with you guys since he is so much more holy then everyone else…(funny…Jesus walked with everyday people and healed the sick and diseased and was a friend with Mary Magdalene…but anyways, moving on.)
But you don’t HAVE to invite him in order to have a relationship down the road.
This was his choice.
He knew by saying that he was done with you two that that would include the wedding. Whenever he decides to grow up, and realize how a real Christian is supposed to act then you can have a relationship with him.

Ugh people like him are why I left the Seventh Day Adventist Church. But I won’t turn this into a religious debate and I mean no offense to anyone who is SDA. Just people in my area.

Post # 20
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685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m with the hive here and say don’t bother inviting him to the wedding.  Even if he were to accept the invite, I suspect the drama won’t end there.  Having him show up will just give you another issue to worry about on your wedding day…and that is not how it should be.

Post # 21
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169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

ugh. that is awful. im so sorry. i just don’t understand why people care so much about other people’s business and life choices. if he doesn’t like the way you live, then he shouldn’t live that way, but he should keep his opinions to himself! ew. totally dont invite him.

however, i agree with other posters – maybe give it one last shot to reconcile and if he’s not completely kind and understanding to you and still insists he doesn’t want any contact bc you guys are such huge sinners ;), then honor his wishes.  god will understand.

Post # 23
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3124 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

my goodness I can’t believe that because of their own personal beliefs, they’re making YOUR life miserable.  Why can’t people just practice in their own homes and leave everyone else out of it?  I say respect his wishes and have a happy day.

Post # 24
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

First, this sucks. Hugs!

Second, I cannot believe one family member would send you such an e-mail. I mean, it’s ridiculous and weird, and obviously, incredibly hurtful.

I’m usually a big advocate of inviting people to weddings you don’t like because typically, it causes less drama in the future. However, in this case, I would say no, don’t invite him, so I think you made the right decision. Why? You’re respecting his wishes by cutting off all communication.

You did the right thing, hun, and again, I’m really sorry you have to deal with this poo!

Post # 25
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

People who don’t support your marriage should not be invited to the wedding.  It really is that simple.  I’m sorry for your Fiance that his family won’t be in attendance, but you should be surrounded by love on your wedding day, not drama.

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