Post # 1
Well bees I thought I had this one in the bag till one of my family members told me “You have to invite his sister thats the etiquette!” and in this case i say screw etiquette. My Fiance does not talk to his sister she makes no effort to call or invite him/us over pretty much they are not close like him and his other sisters, we only see her at family gatherings and even then its kind of odd i dont treat her like any of my Future Sister-In-Law whom i love because she shows no intrest in me i know she has her own problems but i really dont want someone like that at our wedding and she has no control over her child who does whatever he wants. We are having a intimate wedding with people we truly want there (50 guest) and she was not on the list now Fiance says maybe we should invite her because she has the title “sister” I told him thats like me inviting my step sisters whom I have no contact with (it is his half sibling btw).
Post # 3
I have to say that I’d invite her.
Post # 4
I think you should let your Fiance decide whether he wants to invite her and respect whatever decision he makes – I mean – it’s his sister, regardless of whether they are in close contact.
Post # 5
I think you should invite her. If she doesn’t show up, at least you invited her.
Post # 6
For me, when it comes to immediate family, they’re always invited. It would be a HUGE diss if she weren’t. That’s not just etiquette, that’s just being nice to your family.
My husband has a sister that we never see. She’s not on good terms with his entire family, and with us (I’ve nver even met her). he never talks to her, and we invited her. She didn’t come, though.
Post # 7
I agree with PrncssDva. I think you should invite her (ONLY if that’s what your Fiance wants. It’s his sister) and then the ball is in her court.
Post # 8
I think you should invite her too. There’s a difference between siblings being “not close” and being actually estranged. If you still have family events together, it could make things awkward if she’s the only member not invited.
If you don’t want to deal with the out-of-control kid, don’t invite him (that would really only have a shot of working if you’re not inviting any children though).
Post # 9
Unfortunately I think you need to invite her. If she comes it is up to her, but she should at least be invited.
Post # 10
@eeh2010 i agree but hes up in the air about it too : /
he’ll have to give me an answer before the invitations go out though.
Post # 11
You should invite her. You don’t need to invite her child (if you aren’t having other children there).
If your Fiance wants to include her, for whatever reason, you should respect his feelings on that. I don’t think it matters that she is his half sibling. It matters that your Fiance has decided that he wants her there, because she’s his sister, even if the two are not close.
The additional bad blood you risk creating by not inviting her isn’t really worth excluding her, IMO.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t invite her. You can always pull the “it was a really smal wedding” card. Unless, of course, your Fiance wants her there to avoid drama.
Post # 13
I have to say invite her. I totally dislike my Future Sister-In-Law and I am inviting her to appease the family…
Post # 15
Invite who you want, but I agree with gingerbride – not inviting her could create some bad blood in your FI’s family. Only you and your Fiance know your particular situation, but it does sound like she attends his family’s other family functions, which could be really awkward in the future if you don’t invite her. Will your FI’s parents be hurt if you exclude her? Are you having an adults only reception? If so, you could invite her but not her out of control son, and maybe she’ll choose not to come if he’s not invited. If you guys aren’t close at all, chances are she won’t come to your wedding anyway, and if she does rsvp yes, maybe it’s because she wants to be more involved in your lives, which could be a positive thing. Good luck with your decision!
Post # 16
You don’t HAVE to invite her… but are you prepared for you and your fiance to never speak to her again? That’s what you’d be setting yourselves up for. Maybe that’s what the two of you want, but don’t take it lightly.