(Closed) don't want to make holiday small talk about baby's sleep

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
251 posts
Helper bee

@marjojo:   I don’t see why you even have to mention your baby’s sleeping habits. I mean, unless you’re complaining on Facebook every night you’re up with him or talking about it through other means, you can easily say “Oh, he’s sleeping just fine!” and leave it at that. No one but you will really know how fine he is or is not sleeping.

If you’re spending the night, blame his poor sleep on being taken out of his norm.


However, usually the first thing I ask a relative about their baby is not about their sleeping habbits. Usually it’s something generic and non-specific like “How’s Baby doing?”  or I’ll make a statement such as “Wow! Baby is growing so much! He/She is so precious!” It’s not something I focus a whole of of energy on.

Post # 4
4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@marjojo:  People will just ask you about it because… what else does a baby do but shit, eat and sleep?!

I totally would be frustrated too though with people bringing it up all the time. I’d say, “He’s sleeping fine, some nights better than others. What’s new with you?”

Post # 5
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@lealorali:  +1

I’d just play it off like its fine and move on from the subject.

Post # 6
3150 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@lealorali:  +1. 

I also hate a million suggestions from people. Just don’t share that you’re struggling & they won’t make suggestions! Good luck!

Post # 7
7271 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LynnSnow:  +1

Just tell them the baby is sleeping fine.

Post # 8
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d gush so nauseatingly that no one else would make the mistake of asking!

“Little Pierce? Oh! He sleeps like an ANGEL! We’re really so lucky to have such a wonderful baby! He really is so much easier than my friends’ babies… I guess we have to thank Daddy’s calm temperment!”

Post # 9
1021 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I also think it’s a good idea just to say it’s great then change the subject.

@lealorali: ‘s suggestion is perfect.


Post # 10
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Think about it this way… if someone asked you how you were sleeping (and you weren’t really sleeping that well) how would you respond?
I don’t know about you but I think I’d just say “I’m sleeping just fine” and let the conversation end there – so I really agree with PP’s on the diffuse and divert method of approaching this subject.

Post # 11
10 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah, just don’t make a big deal out of it. Say “he sleeps like a baby!” and people can interpret it how they want 😉 

Post # 12
11697 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@marjojo:  unless you’re like my sister who likes to post newphew’s sleeping habits on facebook and then wonders why people ask her about them I wouldn’t worry.  Like PPs have said, just say there are good days and bad and move on.

Post # 13
46595 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just lie! You must have figured out by now that many parents lie about their perfect, sleep through the night the same day home from the hospital babies; their babies who are rolling over on their own at one week of age; the babies who know the alphabet by 6 months; and the ones who are walking at 7 months.

Many babies, even the perfect ones, have their normal patterns disrupted when they travel.

Post # 14
7387 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@lealorali: “He’s sleeping fine, some nights better than others. What’s new with you?”

That’s all you need to say OP. I don’t see why anyone would harp on it if you don’t go out of your way to mention it. 

Post # 16
2016 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If you do not want other people advice or opinions on the matter then lie. If you mention your baby is not sleeping so good you will get people thinking they are helping by making suggestions which i am sure you have already tried. 

FWIW I had issues with bubbas sleep too until about 2 weeks ago and people always asked if she was sleeping through the night yet and had some comment about how im probably doing something wrong. 

Keep stum 

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