Post # 1
I’ve recently went on a job interview and my fiance asked if I would wear it to the interview (I was meeting a friend afterward to celebrate too). We even called his mother and she wasn’t sure either. It was during my taxi ride to the firm that I decided to hide it in my wallet.
I thought if I wore my engagement ring, I would look pompous and that’s the last thing I want a firm to think when they’re evaluating me. I would women to wear the ring AFTER you are hired. Let your employers get to know you first, before they judge your ring.
Many women also do the interview process/hiring, so the might come off as a negative.
I’m hired, but I think if I wore the ring, they wouldn’t have considered me. I want them to see me, NOT my engagement ring.
Post # 3
I’m not sure I understand your reasoning. How would your engagement ring affect their assessment of your professional competency and fit to their company culture? Why would they “judge your ring?” How big is your ring that you think it might come across as pompous, and what kind of job did you interview for?
Post # 5
I’m not sure I agree with you at all. I don’t think the fact that you have or don’t have an engagement ring on would affect your interview. So does this mean after you’re married you’ll never wear your wedding band/engagement ring to an interview in the future? That doesn’t make sense to me!
Post # 6
i don’t think im understanding – if you had worn your ring, you don’t think you would have gotten the job?!
that is ridiculous. what field do you work in? i am in the ultra-conservative legal field, and wore my ring on interviews, and discussed my impending nuptials with my now employer.
hiding marital status is no longer necessary to gain employment, nor is wearing an engagement ring “pompous.”
Post # 7
I have to agree with other posters. I think it’s ridiculous that you hid your engagement ring. I certainly didn’t hide my rings while interviewing, and would have never thought they would judge me by the amount of bling on my finger, or lack there of. Sorry…I just can’t agree with you on this one.
Post # 8
I think we’re all missing something. I wore my engagement ring when interviewing for kennel positions. It’s very hands on and dirty work, but I never even considered not wearing it for the interview. I had one interviewer ask if I’d wear it daily out of concern for damaging the ring, but that was it.
Post # 9
My opinion would be that I’m engaged and therefore myself & my engagement ring come as a package..not to be separated by whatever ‘role’ i want to portray. To be honest if an employer was going to judge me on the fact I’m wearing a ring I’m not sure I’d want the job anyway. I think most employers nowadays don’t really care if a woman is engaged or not – mine are really excited and happy for me.
Post # 10
I actually did somewhat the opposite! When I was interviewing for jobs I was not yet engaged and I wore a thin diamond and sapphire band I have on my ring finger. I would not ever outright lie but I thought that if they assumed I was married it would make me look more mature and stable (something I was concerned about as a very young woman applying for legal jobs).
Post # 11
I am saying this in the nicest way possible, not everyone is as obessed with your ring as you are.
I highly doubt a professional interviewer would even notice your ring.
Post # 12
I just wanted to add my two cents in here.. I work in the HR field and actually learned in school that it may be a good idea to not wear your engagement ring during an interview.. Personally I do NOT agree with this at all, but here is the reasoning given by multiple professors..
People still seem to be living behind in times and think that males are the breadwinners and tend to have the better job and that if you wear an engagement ring it shows that “you are not settled down yet and if your fiance is offered a better job or a transfer then you will relocate for it so you are not serious about keeping this job.” When I heard this I thought it was completely ridiculous and I agree with PP I would NOT want to work for a company that judges me based on that because I in no way feel that males are the breadwinners nowadays.
Just wanted to back up the OP so everyone knew there is actual talk about this topic and several people do feel it is the right thing to do, me NOT included.
Post # 13
It depends on where you’re looking & who you’re inverviewing with. When I was doing my masters I interviewed with a big law firm for a research position -I did wear my ring and the interviewer started asking me questions -I think his angle was -ARE YOU GOING TO GET MARRIED HAVE BABIES AND COST ME MONEY IN MAT LEAVE AND TRAINING – I could have read too much into it, but most of his questions were illegal so he must have had a point in asking them.
I honestly don’t think its wrong not to wear an e ring to an interview -minimal jewelry is always encouraged -and it is not necessary for a future employee to know your marital status. Its a slippery slope either way.
Post # 14
Maybe you were just actually qualified for the job, ring or no ring.
Post # 15
- Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France
Well we are all entitled to our opinions. You may feel hiding away your ring gave you an edge. I personally feel like an engagment ring would symbolize a stable personal life so you are fully able to focus on your career. To each their own.
Post # 16
Hide your ring? Thats like hiding you’re husband. Shame on you.