(Closed) “don’t worry.we can invite more people. most of the people invited won’t come”

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m hearing this from my Future Mother-In-Law, too.  But 75% of our guests would have to travel anwyereh from 500-1000 miles, sooo, it’s not incredibly unrealistic for me.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

This came with the first address list (from FSIL’s wedding):

“As you can see from the enclosed list, many of these couldn’t come and might or might not attend this one.  Most are out of the area.  But, as direct relative, need an invitation.  I can advise you more later.”

Since the bride is only inviting one of her twelve cousins, we do not need to invite all of FI’s GREAT-Aunts.

I think it’s finally sunk in that *only* 25 people will be invited from their family. We’ll see what happens when I send the invites out next month. 

 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@abbie017:  Wasn’t sure by your post-are you saying you think they won’t come? Guests have a lot of options flying into our area- almost the whole country flies direct to Dulles, and with a number of other airports close by, I could see you having a high RSVP rate.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@jackndiane: FMIL and Fiance are in this camp. I understand your frustration! I refuse to “hope” that people won’t be able to come, because we certainly can’t invite 250 people to a reception that only fits 200 MAX.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@rebwana:  Yes, they have options.  The location of airports isn’t an issue.  It’s the cost of paying for those flights and the hotels…

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

@jackndiane:  You can’t just assume that. We thought that, and we only had about 20% decline, much to our suprise. And the majority that declined were actually in-town people, not out of town. You could end up having more guests than you anticipated, which means more money and less room. Maybe a b-list for people to invite after the rest of have come in?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would not be comfortable with that. Just give her a hard limit on people she can invite and don’t budge. She can whine and moan all she wants, just don’t give in. Extra guests are not a problem you want to deal with 2 weeks from your wedding when RSVPs have come in!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

DONT LISTEN TO THAT!!!!

My Mother-In-Law said the same thing and we ended up with 67 people OVE and had to pay the venue $1654 to the venue at the end of the night.

Thank God my amazing wedding planner didnt let me know til the day after and my Mother-In-Law payed that off. Dont get fooled lol!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Fiance and I had that mentality for a few minutes, but then, both after posting here about guest lists, and thinking it over, why risk it? Yes, most of our guests will be coming out of state, but that may not stop them.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Future Mother-In-Law believed that 110%.  So she started blabbering on Skype to relatives halfway across the country about our wedding and how she can’t wait to see them (because “that part of the family will never come, they’re too far away”) and they were like “Awesome! We’re so excited! We already booked plane tickets!”  So now people we never intended to invite are coming, and have to be invited because we (not FMIL) are going to look like a-holes if we don’t invite them. We don’t know them very well, Fiance has only met them once or twice, but we had to cut other people we’re closer to off the list so they could have plates.

That incident shut her up real quick, thankfully.  Probably helped that we made her cut people- she wanted us to take our friends off the list, but we told her “nope, you opened your mouth after we told you not to blab to people, you didn’t listen, now you make the tough cuts.”

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