MemberI was at church, and some lady turned around and told me to “cheer up”! I wansnt even sad. Another time i was in camp in HS and a woman asked me if i was ok. Twice! Has anyone ever gotten this? Because i wish people would mind their own buisness
MemberOr, you could look upon this as behavior from people who care about you. Even if you aren’t sad, your face must be giving that message.
Member@julies1949: sure but its excessive.and they were strangers
MemberWe have a friend who will ask “are you ok?” in a sad tone almost every time you see her. It doesnt drive me nuts, but I know a few of her friends cant stand it at all. It implies that there is something wrong with you even if there isnt!
Member@dicapriosimaginarywife: Can’t you just give them the benefit of the doubt that they are caring people and were concerned enough about how you were feeling to say something?
For some people, the mere fact of someone acknowledging them, even a stranger, would make their day.
I think we need more caring people, not less. Just smile and say “Thanks, I’m fine.”
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MemberI HATE that!!
There’s a custodian at my school that always says, “Smile!” And I just want to rip his head off and say, “Excuse me buddy, but you don’t know what goes on in people’s lives, so you really shouldn’t look at someone & tell them to smile.”
I swore the next time he said that to me I’d say something instead of giving him that look.
MemberYes cheer up is annoying. But asking if someone is ok? What do you do if a friend or coworker is visibly upset? Pretend you did not notice?
Member@julies1949: im the kind of person who likes to be left alone. If i was down maybe id appreciate it but i know a stranger doesnt really care.
Member@Rubbs: i remember giving that woman who asked me twice some lip haha i could care less stay out fof my buisness just because i have pouty lipsdoesn’t mean im upset 🙂
Memberoh i dont like that. on my wedding day i was super stressed and waiting in a public place and people said stuff like “its supposed to be a happy day! smile!” eugh
MemberOMG I hate that! Hate.
If I look sad or grumpy it’s because I’m sad or grumpy. Why the hell should I “smile” or “cheer up” just to make some freaking stranger feel more comfortable! Ugh.
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Member@Flanders: This is my favorite thing ever
I have a naturally frowny face, I HATE when strangers tell me to smile/cheer up. What if my dog just died? I don’t understand why randos feel the need to comment on my apparent mood.
MemberI HATE this. I don’t even have a naturally frowny/miserable face; I just happen not to grin inanely 24/7..
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