(Closed) Dont you hate this?

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Or, you could look upon this as behavior from people who care about you. Even if you aren’t sad, your face must be giving that message.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We have a friend who will ask “are you ok?” in a sad tone almost every time you see her.  It doesnt drive me nuts, but I know a few of her friends cant stand it at all. It implies that there is something wrong with you even if there isnt!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@dicapriosimaginarywife:  Can’t you just give them the benefit of the doubt that they are caring people and were concerned enough about how you were feeling to say something?

For some people, the mere fact of someone acknowledging them, even a stranger, would make their day.

I think we need more caring people, not less. Just smile and say “Thanks, I’m fine.”

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah…this would bug me. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I HATE that!!

There’s a custodian at my school that always says, “Smile!” And I just want to rip his head off and say, “Excuse me buddy, but you don’t know what goes on in people’s lives, so you really shouldn’t look at someone & tell them to smile.”

I swore the next time he said that to me I’d say something instead of giving him that look. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yes cheer up is annoying. But asking if someone is ok? What do you do if a friend or coworker is visibly upset? Pretend you did not notice?

 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

oh i dont like that. on my wedding day i was super stressed and waiting in a public place and people said stuff like “its supposed to be a happy day! smile!” eugh 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OMG I hate that! Hate.

If I look sad or grumpy it’s because I’m sad or grumpy. Why the hell should I “smile” or “cheer up” just to make some freaking stranger feel more comfortable! Ugh.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

It happens to me ALL THE TIME, and here is why:

 

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Flanders:  This is my favorite thing ever

I have a naturally frowny face, I HATE when strangers tell me to smile/cheer up. What if my dog just died? I don’t understand why randos feel the need to comment on my apparent mood. 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

I HATE this. I don’t even have a naturally frowny/miserable face; I just happen not to grin inanely 24/7..

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