(Closed) Don’t you hate….

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i don’t know if this is the right thing to do, but we’re completely ignoring it and are just hoping that no coworkers say anything! so far it has worked out, but there are 2 more months so there is still time for that to happen lol

Post # 4
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I’ve done kind of what you said. I just told them that budget and space restrictions have really cut our guest list down and though I’d love for them to be there, it’s just not possible right now. Of course, I had people hating me left and right, but what am I supposed to do? You can’t assume you’re invited to my wedding if you’ve never hung out with me outside of work, nor have you even ever met my FI!

Stand firm…it’s never easy, but it’s just the way that it has to be sometimes.

Post # 5
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2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I was filling in at my Mom’s bunco group when someone asked me about the wedding and I told them my reasoning for choosing November ending with “and how many weddings have you ever been to in November” obviously using the generic “you”. She replied “oh, this’ll be my second…”

I didn’t say anything. She won’t be getting an invite, and that’s pretty much the end of it.

ETA: I don’t talk about my wedding much at work because I work in a very small office with my siblings and one other guy. The one other guy I’m not inviting because I do not like him at all. So to keep him from thinking he’s invited, I avoid the topic but I fully intend to use the space restrictions excuse, which is totally true by the way. We’re capped at 80 and I’m not wasting a seat on that troll!

Post # 6
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3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Since you just laughed, I would make sure not to respond. I think this is one of those situations where it is easier to just not bring up that they aren’t invited and carry on with your business. If they ask, then just tell them that given venue size/budget restraints/whatever, you had to limit your guest list to immediate family and friends.

It is crummy. My FI’s grandfather’s brother (follow?) asked us when the wedding is because his girls want to save the date. His girls are actually really close in age to us despite the connection there, but we definitely weren’t planning on inviting them as I have only met 2 of the 3, and that was only once in our almost 3 years of togetherness. We don’t dislike them or anything, but Fiance doesn’t see them, either. We don’t have an excuse right now because so far the wedding and reception are on FI’s grandparent’s farm. Luckily, we just hadn’t set a date yet when he asked.

Post # 7
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I just didn’t invite anyone, and some were talking about how excited they were for us to get married. My Fiance worked w/ me at the same office for a few years before transferring to a different job. I get excited w/ them but all I said was I am paying for the wedding myself. Which makes it seem smaller than it actually is. A week left to my wedding, and now my co-workers just think its funny how stressed I am.

 

 

Post # 8
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1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I had an acquaintance send me a facebook message telling me that he knew my wedding was soon, but he hadn’t received his invite yet so he needed to know the date and time so he could request it off of work.. SO RUDE! I never told him my wedding date or said anything about him being invited and I still have no idea how he knew my wedding was coming up.

Post # 9
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

AHHHH BELLA 3 MORE DAYS!!! So excited for you!

 

 

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