- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
Long story short – ring is bought, in the house. We lives overseas, and are going home in approx 3 weeks for christmastime where we’ll be home for 3 weeks, and see both our families and friends we hardly get to see. we’ve talked a few times about how special it would be to celebrate with them since we won’t see them for another 6 months after christmas.
last night SO commented that he doesn’t want to propose in our current city, because it’s not special – i immediately said that wherever, whatever he chooses to do will be special and that i don’t need a circus and that the most special thing would be to share our news with our families at christmas. (and get planning! since we live overseas, it would be great to do a little legwork while home) he asked if i’d rather wait a little longer for a better proposal – i said no! ‘better’ – what is that? i don’t think there’s a bad way for the love of your life to ask you to be their wife and gift you a diamond ring 🙂
he mentioned a trip we’ve booked for january to africa – and i commented that if we were engaged, i wouldn’t even wear my diamond ring there – it’s a place that doesn’t traditionally have diamond rings and would likely create a lot of unwanted attention. this is a city with issues with crime and pickpockets to begin with. plus, good luck bargaining in markets wearing diamonds! he looked a little bummed, but we won’t be staying places with safes etc – i wouldn’t feel comfortable taking it there.
but now – we go home in three weeks! i don’t want him to feel pressured, but i know i will be disappointed if we can’t share that special time with them – and i think in hindsight he will too! for instance, my grandmother is coming for christmas and she hasn’t come in about 10 years. my brother who lives in another city will be home for 2 weeks, my best friend will be home, our college roommates are flying in for new years, and we’re spending 4 days with his parents and family as well. it would be hard to have all of that (plus the ‘when’s it coming?’ questions), then come back, get engaged and tell people over facetime when we were JUST there and could have truly celebrated with them!
so i’m trying to be super zen about it – i don’t know what else to do! i realise that proposing is his thing, and i don’t want to micromanage him. i just wish he didn’t feel the pressure to come up with some elaborate scheme – it’s unnecessary but i think the whole youtube proposal trend has gotten to him a bit.
sorry to ramble, i’m just a little upset. it would mean the world to me to share this time with my family, especially since we’re so far away normally. anyways, any tips bees? i’m not sure what to say or do, so after our talk i’m saying zip unless he asks.