(Closed) Do"s and Dont's for a wedding/reception I'm confused…..

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

No.  Four Weddings is kind of dumb.  Weddings don’t have to have a theme.  The theme that it’s a freaking wedding should be enough.  It doesn’t have to be “Under the Sea” or “Winter Wonderland.”

Our theme was just a bunch of mish-mashed stuff that Darling Husband and I like, and didn’t necessarily need to clearly go together.  It was in an old Victorian house, the cake was copied from my favorite movie, he wore TARDIS cufflinks, etc.  

Four Weddings is just a bunch of bitchy women trying to win a honeymoon.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ummm no, you need to take that show with a grain of salt.  Don’t forget, it’s made for TV.  People will always have different opinions.  You can’t please everyone.  Just do what you want to do, and how you Vision your wedding to be

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Sorry, this is hilarious because you sound exactly like me back when I was planning! I actually called my mom panicking about something because people on Four Weddings were being rude about it. She suggested I go on a break from watching it :). You might consider the same! 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

It’s a TV show, they have to have some drama to keep people watching! It’s like a soap opera. Just be entertained, have FUN watching it and laugh when they get ridiculous!

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

No! Four Weddings is ridiculously rude and picky. Your wedding doesn’t need to live up to their competition standards. Normal weddings are a great time and I’ve never had any of those complaints.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

They complained about too much food?! Seriously that show is ridic. Don’t even worry about, your guests will be much kinder to you than the ladies on that show.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

My mom and I lump that show in with Bridezillas and call them all “bitchy brides”–like I will come over and say Want to watch bitchy brides? 

The reason that 4 weddings is in the same category as Bridezillas is that it’s a bunch of women TRYING to find a reason to justify low-balling others without making themselves look like they are low-balling others. The show is entertaining, and it has taught me some things with the legitimate complaints (outdoor ceremonies with tons of bugs, situations in which no one was mic’-ed and no one could hear a thing past the third row, etc.) but a lot of time it’s just nitpicky BS complaints made to make themselves look better.

Surely you aren’t going to invite anyone who will be that catty. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

The only thing I ever learned from Four Weddings is that people want to go to a wedding and have a good time. The people that you invite to your wedding are there to celebrate you and your husband. The brides on Four Weddings are there to analyze, pick apart and nitpick every single aspect of a wedding that regular guests don’t even take the time to really care about. Also, these women go in there with the intent to judge on what they would do better or differently, it’s a competition. If it wasn’t a competition I guarantee you a lot of those women would be singing a different tune. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Uggghh… NOTHING on TV is real. Not even reality TV. Please don’t base your life off of a television show.

 

Here’s our theme: We’re getting married. Show up or don’t.

We’re not trying to have a party that’s going to cost anything close to 5 digits before the decimal point. We’re uniting 2 lives forever. That’s the ONLY thing that matters.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

people will complain and there is nothing you can do about it, dont judge your wedding by a tv show. As long as you and your husband are happy that is all that matters. Focus on being happy.

side note they just want a free honeymoon, 🙂

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Four Weddings clearly illustrates why strangers should not be invited to your wedding.  The people who are really there for you don’t care about any of that stuff unless it actually does get in their way (for example, yeah, I get a little put off by centepieces that are huge and right at eye level, because then I can’t talk across the table to someone).  Strangers don’t know or care about you, so they’ll be mean and picky.

Plus, the brides on that show are told and steered toward bitchy comments.  My friend was on it, and not only did it really put a damper on her wedding, but she came off terribly on tv, totally not herself at all after they edited it.  They pick people who are over the top to begin with, then they coach them toward nastiness.  It’s not a good vibe.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Watch Four Weddings enough times and you’ll find just about even criticisms that cancel each other out.  For every complaint of too many flowers, someone whines there weren’t enough.  One bride complains the arrangements are too tall, another bitches about not having grand enough and tall enough arrangements.  And that’s just flowers!  Food and other wedding accoutrements are the same!  Go with what’s right and in your budget and forget about the manufactured and contradictory drama of Four Weddings.

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