(Closed) Dos and don’ts from a guest perspective?

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The biggest issue I have ever run into as a guest at a wedding had to do with the length and lack of food at the cocktail hour.  We were at the venue, and there was plenty of alcohol, but only 1 cheese and fruit platter that was gone in about 10 minutes.  The wedding party took at least an hour, if not more, taking pictures, and then once the made their entrance, they had first dance, then had not 1, not 2, but 3 slideshows of photos before we ate dinner.  Everyone was drunk and starving!

Post # 4
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My biggest pet peeves are: 

1. not having enough chairs/tables for everyone.  I hate having to balance a plate/glass on my lap while sitting…it’s even worse if I have to stand


2. Not  having water available during or at least immediately after a long, hot outdoor ceremony



Post # 5
875 posts
Busy bee

I dislike waiting after the ceremony for the bride and groom to arrive at the reception for over an hour.  (If the wait is preplanned and printed in the invitation… that’s fine, but don’t just do art photos for hours while we wait!   )

Making sure that friendly munchies and cold drinks are available throughout the evening…  by cold drinks… think soda pop, lemonade, and ice water…. 

Munchies can be chips and pretzels…. something that most people will enjoy! 

When alcohol is served, be aware that guests don’t want to worry about others getting home, so cutting off those drinks is fine… or having a bus or shuttle to the hotell. 

Please plan ahead and think about table seatings and good grouping of the seats…  Put family groups together unless dividing a family is a good fit for a specific group…  ie… the college table of friends who grew up together is just fine, but separating family members who know very few other guests isn’t the best situation. 

Treat your guests the way you like to be treated.  I don’t know about you… but I don’t enjoy getting gifts that are label with someone else’s name.  Favors that have an engraving of your wedding date aren’t that fun to anyone but you,  I’d rather have a little treat to share or eat


Post # 6
2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Timing is always my number one complaint. So many weddings involve standing around with nothing to do. I can entertain myself for an hour of cocktails and chatting with your cousin, but pushing that and it gets tedious.

Post # 7
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Food is usually my #1 gripe – I’m not picky about quality or quantity beyond something I can eat. I had never heard of a silent option for vegetarians until WeddingBee and so few invitations offer a vegetarian option (at least in this area). I understand that it’s not the end of the world if I can’t eat one meal, but I have a hard time enjoying a wedding where rolls and cake are all I can eat. It may just be one meal, but weddings are a huge time commitment. Even if you eat beforehand, there’s still the ceremony, a gap, and the whole reception, plus travel time. It’s really hard to enjoy a reception on an empty stomach!

Post # 8
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think my biggest pet peeve has to do with transportation.  I hate when a couple has their wedding in an isolated area (no cabs, not at a hotel) and spends lots of time/money on the wedding but does not provide any sort of transportation for guests back to their places of lodging.  I know that we are all grown-ups but this type of situation encourages drunk driving and feels a little like the hosts are saying “I care more about my cake than about your safety as my guest.” Personally I would rather have a shuttle provided to me than receive a wedding favor. 

Post # 9
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I once went to a weddng where the bride and groom did not show up for almost two hours into the reception. I thought that was rude.

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