(Closed) Do’s and Don’ts

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Do plan early, don’t wait to book vendors that you really want.

Do communicate, don’t plan with out discussing things first.
 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Don’t ask people to be in your bridal party right away!

Post # 5
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106 posts
Blushing bee

I second Amysue! If you have time…as sure as you *think* you are…hold off and think about it. Slowly, my party has grown to be 8 couples plus three juniors! If only I had waited…

 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

DO shop around!

DON’T buy the first dress you try on!

DO schedule two dress appointments so you won’t feel pressured to buy a dress you don’t love (and your dress attendant will turn down the heat since she knows you’re coming back)!

DON’T use credit to buy or reserve anything for the wedding!

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Please have these topics in mind when talking about etiquette Do’s and Don’ts:

1. Who pays for what?

2. Invitation problems: if you don’t want children at your wedding

3. The reception seating plan

4. If you cancel or postpone the wedding

5. The reception seating plan

6. Who pays for what?

7. Wedding gifts

Those topics helped me out a lot!

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

DO include your wedding party and family in wedding planning (people usually enjoy to be in the loop and feel left out and disconnected if all they have to do is "show up"), but know where to draw the line (e.g., don’t invite 8 BMs to find Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses or your wedding dress).

DON’T lose sight on your big day–it’s important to plan sufficiently before hand and let someoneo else take the reigns (whether it’s a DOC or a trusted family friend) on the day of so that you can enjoy the day you get married instead of worrying about whether people know that they’re supposed to wait until after the cocktail hour to enter the reception tent, etc.

DO give yourself plenty of time–you have the rest of your life to be married, so they’re is (usually) no rush; enjoy your engagement and the planning process without putting too much stress on yourself.

DON’T become consumed by wedding planning–it’s the fastest way to alienate your fiance, friends, and family; they have interesting lives as well, so be sure to stay connected with them!

I can’t wait to see your blog!  Be sure to update us when you have it up and running!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Two more: DO wait at least 24 hours between meeting with a vendor and booking them–it usually makes no difference (i.e., you’re not usually going to get passed up), and it’ll force you to decide whether this is really "the one" for you.  It’s easy to get caught up in their pitch and the excitement, but the 24-hour rule will allow you to think about the decision more objectively, and help you to decide if you should continue searching.

Whether you need to or not, DO keep a checklist, even for the tiniest tasks (e.g., "send follow-up thank you to prospective caterers")–it will give you such a sense of accomplishment and it’s fun to see all of those checked boxes!

Post # 10
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229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Okay, seriously… last one.  In contrast to one recommendation above, I would say DO consider using a credit card with a rewards program for as many payments as you can, with the caveat that you MUST avoid at all costs the temptation to keep a balance on it, even a little one.  Don’t spend the money unless you have it in your wedding account, ready to pay off.  We’re getting free airfare for our honeymoon because we’ve used our mileage program credit card for as many purchases as possible.  It’s like getting an extra $2000 gift just for being a savvy consumer!  I have read about other couples using the Starwood Hotels AMEX for their wedding and then being able to pay for their entire honeymoon hotel expenses with points.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Do give yourself time for breaks. My fiance and I are five months out and we just got back from a long weekend with friends in LA and it was the best. We are now refreshed and ready to deal with more wedding stuff. Also do make time for the two of you. Go to a movie or dinner, just because you are spending time together wedding planning doesn’t mean it is quality time.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Do read Weddingbee

Post # 13
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Newbee

I want to second giving yourself breaks and not choosing the bridal party too soon!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’d say that a big DO is to limit your number of inspiration sources (once you have your basic ideas) to avoid getting overwhelmed, overstimulated, and overbudget!

Don’t get so caught up in linens and specialty cocktails and the like that you forget about the deeper meaning of the day. 🙂

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

DON’T announce the date the second you secure your church and reception location. We waited a few months to make sure everything was solidified – a great idea!!

DO purchase a good wedding organizer (or make your own with a 3-ring binder and folders) to keep contracts and vendor information organized. I carry mine in a special bridal tote to all of my vendor meetings just to make sure I don’t lose anything! 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Think very carefully about kicking someone out of your wedding party, it could mean the end of a friendship.

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