- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I have a dilemma. I want to double barrel my last name without a hyphen (like Hillary Rodham Clinton, Helena Bonham Carter, Sandra Day O’Connor, etc.), but think it would be terribly confusing to do so since my maiden name is much more common as a girls first name than it is as a last name. I feel that most people will botch it up and think that my maiden name is my middle name and that I’m obsessed with writing my middle name on everything! Or, since it’s more common to have a hyphen, they’ll add a hyphen to my name anyway.
I like my husband’s last name, but it feels weird on me because he goes by his last name professionally and as a nickname because his first name is extremely common (Michael). When we first met as co-workers and became friends, I called him by his last name and continued to do so until right before we started to date! Also, because my last name is usually a girl’s name, people often call me Firstlast as a compound nickname. By dropping or moving my maiden name, I feel like I’m literally dropping half of my name, like if I was Mary Anne and suddenly became Mary.
I do not want to drop my middle name (because while it’s a common one, it is also a family name!) and while I could take my maiden as a second middle name, I’d prefer not to because I worry that second middle names get forgotten or left off of things.
So let’s say my name (First Middle MyLast HisLast) is Wrenny Lee Allison Marcum.
Would it be better logistically to be (First Last) Wrenny Allison Marcum or Wrenny Allison-Marcum?
I’d greatly appreciate your opinions, as well as your own experiences with double barreled and hyphenated names!
PS: (In case it matters, we plan to use only HisLast for our kids. Any girls we have will have MyLast as a middle name (or for one daughter, as a first name.)