Post # 1
im getting married in 6months and its family and best friends only for both sides and while my fi has no issues on his side i on the other had have two bffs and they HATE one another. i cant invite one and not the other and i cant not invite both. i dont know what to do so it wont be an akward day. do anyone have any ideas as to how i should handle this?
Post # 3
I can’t imagine it being worse then those of us who have had to invite divorced parents who hate each other.
Invite them both, and seat them at different tables. If necessary, tell them both the other will be there, and ask them to act mature for your sake.
Post # 4
I agree with PP, invite them both and seat them at different tables.
Post # 5
They should be able to put aside their differences for you. Don’t feed into their drama. Invite them both and let them decide what they want to do.
Post # 6
@paula1248: +1 this.
I think almost all of us have this sitch. follow PP’s advice and just be pumped it’s one incident of terror as opposed to two fueding families- romantic in the movies pain in the arse irl 🙂
ETA: make sure you’ve got a relative/friend who’s on babysit mode so if they try to make a scene you’ll never have to deal with it. I think you’ll find that if they love/support you they’ll be on their best behavior, but we can all get lippy after some bubbly.
Post # 7
true it could be worse then just the two people. so i think imma do as suggested and just let them both know the plan and tell them if they dont think they can behave for my day then just dont show.i dont want any negative vibes on that day. hopefully they both will love me enough. thanks everyone.
Post # 8
@aprilfool13: p.s. I’m sorry it sounded like my situation (helping my sister deal with our divorced parents at her wedding) was worse than yours. Every situation is hard in its own way. What I should have said is a lot of us have dealt with something kind of similar. Anyway, all the best for your wedding and marriage!