(Closed) Double Digit Countdown!

posted 6 years ago in September 2012
Post # 3
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3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m with you on the “can’t wait for it to be over” statement!

Almost all our “big” stuff is done: venue, caterer, DJ, transportation, officiant, host hotel, invites sent (36 rsvp’s already in but we have a long ways to go), ceremony music picked, we have the final catering tasting and cake tasting in 2 weeks, dress is bought and should be here in a month, wedding bands bought and should be ready for pickup next week (they are doing a custom job for me and have had my e-ring for 3 weeks to use as a model and I feel pretty weird not having it on), centerpeices are decided and in progress, bridesmaids are shopping for their mismatched dresses, groomsmen being fitted for their suits, and what feels like 10000 other things… oh and a friend gifted us a photographer and while we’ve not sat down to chat with him yet, I’m considering that one done.

We still have to get the license, finalize the menu, pick jewelry, I need shoes and undergarments, finalize the ceremony and vows, chase RSVP’s, work out a few special liquor requests with the venue, get a few things printed up, finalize the bachelorette do, and get some odds and ends like disposable cameras. But it’s quickly becoming a very short list.

The whole reason I want it done, though, is because I am quickly becoming jaded on the entire wedding industry. I hate how no one will tell you a price or even a generic range online— would it kill the DJ company to say “weddings start at $750 for  3 hours, and here’s the things we charge extra for”?  Or would it kill the caterer to put ONE very generic sample menu online with the price?  I know you can’t give me a solid price till you have more details but sheesh, at least let me know if you’re even worth calling, based on my budget!

Plus I am looking forward to the acres of free time I will have once we are all done. My Mr has been very supportive, but in all reality he has not contributed much to the decision-making— and I don’t expect him to, because for our entire relationship I’ve been happy to be the detail-level planner. I enjoy researching hotels and restaurants online before we travel; I have the eye for fashion. He’s not going to change his personality just because we are getting married, nor do we want to, but it does put a hefty burden on my shoulders. I’ve been leaning on my friends, especially my bridesmaids, when needed but trying not to be a huge burden, plus when an idea comes together in my mind, I tend to move fast and with confidence, then ask opinions later.  Anyway it’s been a lot of work. I’m really looking forward to being able to stare off into space all weekend if that’s what I want to do!

Post # 5
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3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m used to my Mr’s laid back ways.  It doesn’t bother me per se— I do wish I had some extra help on some of the big decisions, but when it’s a task that clearly falls in his territory (groomsmen attire and chasing RSVP’s from people he knows better than I do), he’ll step up without too much prodding. He is the way he is, and it’s not just wedding stuff.  The upside is, he trusts my judgement completely, and he will volunteer his opinion if it’s something he truly does not agree on, and I’d much prefer things this way than trying to get through life (and not just the wedding) with a partner whose opinions were just as strong as mine, but opposing, so every detail of every decision becomes a battle of wills.

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