Post # 1
So, today I made 2 appointments (I haven’t seen anyone yet except my family doctor to confirm pregnancy)
I really have no idea what I’m doing… the OBGYN appt is on the 12th and the midwife is on the 21st.
Should/can I keep both the appointments and see who I like more and where I am more comfortable? Is my insurance (which is PPO) going to flip out over the double appt in one month?
If I see a midwife, can I still have a medical delivery (with an epidural) or does that rule that out? I don’t even know how I feel anymore about natural birthing vs. medical birthing. I feel so lost and confused and scared!!
Thoughts? Anyone else do this silly thing??
Post # 3
Did you set up two meetings because you’re unsure of which one would be better during your pregnancy? Have you met either of them before, or are these appointments sort of “meet and greets”? Your insurance coverage will depend on your individual plan, so probably your best bet would be to call your insurance company or talk to your HR department to find out about your coverage and possible out of pocket costs.
As far as midwife versus OBGYN goes, both midwives and doctors can and do support unmedicated and medicated births, but whether they choose to do so depends so much on the indidivdual, the practice, and the birthing establishment. The best way to find out whether a medical professional supports both is to just call them up and ask. The receptionist should be able to tell you some basics about the practice, including where the doctor/midwife can deliver.
Post # 4
That’s exactly why I made 2 appointments, LOL. I wasn’t going to, but I called the OBGYN office first and when I asked the receptionist some questions she was rude and said “It’s all standard procedure.” I reminded her this was my first pregnancy, so I was unfamiliar with “standard procedure” and continued making the appointment.
Right after, I called the midwife and the receptionist was crazy nice… I’m considering canceling with the OBGYN, but I know I shouldn’t judge the practice by the phone girl.
We have 2 hospitals in our city… the midwife is at the new hospital, which is a top rated hospital to boot. The OBGYN is at the hospital with Darling Husband and I were both born (smaller, quainter, and always my go-to if I need an ER)
Before I was pregnant, I thought I was all confident… going natural, with the midwife, maybe even a birthing center. But maybe it’s my own fears, on top of the fears of my friends and family, but now I feel like I can not rule out an epidural until I am actually in labor. (Most people talk like it’s blinding pain and only 1 or 2 say it’s manageable. Very scary non-official-stats)
So I guess yeah, I will see if my insurance will cover both. But if the midwife isn’t anti-epidural, maybe I should just cancel the appt with the OBGYN all together since I already have a bad taste in my mouth about it… and the lure of the brand new hospital beckons me.
Overwhelmed with options and uncertainty!
Post # 5
Lol, well it sounds like the midwife might be a better fit! Definitely call and ask about the epidural issue, but generally midwives who work in hospitals are supportive of a wide range of birthing options. Plus, being at a top notch hospital sounds great to me!
Fwiw, I’m one of those people who believe in having a lot of options, so delivering in a hospital was the best for me. I planned to do an unmedicated birth, but when I wanted an epidural, I was able to get one pretty quickly. Especially as a first timer, I thinking leaving your options open is a smart choice. 🙂
Post # 6
@stefanieastronaut: The phone girl is a good way to judge the practice. I actually switched for the same reason. Everyone’s attitude in the office matched that of the nurse’s at the front. My midwife has the sweetest nurses working for her and they are all so fantastic. Remember the phone girls are usually nurses or medical asst’s and you may have to deal with them more often than you think.
Post # 7
Mrs. Spring – Being a first timer, I totally want my options, that is great advice and I whole-heartedly agree! I think the midwife might be a better fit… and the new hospital is supposed to be top of the line for birthing. (there is no midwife available at the other hospital all together and this midwife is literally the only one at the new hospital)
mwitter80 – GOOD CALL. I forgot about this as a potential reality. I was shocked on the phone and kinda felt like crying! She actually said to me “You need to bring your insurance card and proof of your pregnancy”…
It took me a moment to reply but then I managed to stammer out
“…Proof… like… the pregnancy test I took?”
(Because legit, I had no clue what she wanted from me)
and she says back “NO, Like a written slip from your physician. You have had this pregnancy confirmed, right?”
Not that this would be any excuse for her behavior, but I do have a childish voice… do you think she’d be surprised when I stroll in, 25 years old and married?
When I called my physician to tell them of the request, my normal phone girl paused and said “What kind of proof?”
LOL, I told her I asked the same question. She said she’s never had anyone ask for that but they always do fax the pregnancy test results when the OBGYNs office calls THEM to request that.
All of that made me kind of 0_o
but I didn’t want to jump the gun and cancel right away…
especially since I probably would have gotten the same woman and she would’ve given me the third degree for wasting her time.
Post # 8
I dont think you should judge the entire practice based on one person who answered the phone. At my OB’s office they are nice except one person who can be a bit impatient but ultimately she isnt the one that will be delivering my baby.
Post # 9
It seems like you are leaning towards the midwife. I am sure you are anxious to get in to see how your baby is doing, but could you make the OB appointment after the 21st? That way you can go to the midwife first, and if you really like her and what she can do, then you can cancel the OB appointment? But if the midwife isn’t right for you, you’d already have the OB appointment set up for a few days later.
You might also want to talk to your doc. I think it shouldn’t be a problem if you are just interviewing the doctor, but if they both provide a full exam, your insurance might not cover it twice in a matter of weeks.