(Closed) Double Life

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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39 posts
Newbee

Are you my long lost waiting twin?! LOL! That is exactly how I am! I wait for him to be super busy or asleep before I go on weddingbee or my google rampages looking up venues, dresses, rings, prices, dates, hairstyles, you name it. I delete my browsing history just in case he does use my computer as to not mortify him any further than I already have. I feel like I HAVE to act this way because I don’t want him to think I’m just obsessed about the wedding because I’m not…I just want the whole package him AND the wedding. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

We must be triplets then! lol He is asleep right now and I am on here.I feel so horrible!

Post # 6
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185 posts
Blushing bee

lol i stared cracking up when i saw this because its the same way i am. when im with him im relaxed and not anxious at all, i dont even mention engagement. but when i get to work im in wedding planner mode and if he knew i think he would call me a psycho lol. but it really does help with the waiting because i still have 9 months to go before i get any engagement. ( uuggghhh typing that sucks )

Post # 7
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54 posts
Worker bee

Wow..we’re quadruplets.  I’m doing the SAME thing!  I’m a teacher so I have summers off and I think I have our entire wedding planned already….he just doesn’t know about it yet.  I’m not crazy, I just need to know how much money to save.  

The double life thing is taxing though.  Part of me wants to just blurt out how I’m feeling, but part of me feels like this would tarnish the engagement.  I know it’s happening soon, so I don’t want to say anything, but it’s so hard (especially if there’s wine at dinner).  

 

And yes, always delete the browsing history…

Post # 8
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2300 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

Oh yeah me too. I only look at rings though. He always asks me to come to bed with him and some nights I don’t wanna, I want to go Google my heart out looking for the perfect ring or ways to get him to speed things up hahaha.

Post # 10
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435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

me five? six? whatevs ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 11
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89 posts
Worker bee

I do the same thing too. We also live separately, so I can look at anything I like, and have no fears.

I figure looking keeps me from asking him what his thoughts are. And since I know he said “twelve months,” that only leaves me with two months or so… so I keep looking in silence. I figure it doesn’t hurt anyone to look in silence, and I have a co-worker getting married, so if he ever asks, I can tell a white lie and say that she asked my opinion on something.

Post # 13
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354 posts
Helper bee

meeeee 8!!! lol wow im kinda glad theres others like me :).. in my case i act like im too cool to talk bout marrige and stuff like that, hes always the one saying babe i cant wait tyll later on and i just say a huh yea me too babe, but little duzzzz my luver noo i am obbsessed with marrige related thing and later on! ๐Ÿ™ im soo sad lol,, but hey he did this too me , he shud of never made me fall in love and want a future with him soo fast..baaaa humbuggg

Post # 14
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77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I used to do that before he proposed! I had color combos worked out for two different location options and folders of wedding inspiration pictures hidden under “Misc.” on my computer! Saldy, it doesn’t look like we’ll be using either of my location ideas… LOL. And by the time he proposed, I’d stopped because I was afraid it was becoming too much of a distraction during the school year. ๐Ÿ˜‰ The only advice I’d have is that you might not want to “pre-plan” too much because it really does make a big difference when your SOs have a say!

Post # 15
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71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@KayDubs: That is why we have different accounts on teh computer.No one knows my password and I don’t know his.

Post # 16
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11 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow this sounds like me before he proposed. I had everything ready I had my wedding dress options, color combinations, venue options, guest list…LOL I even went into davids bridal and spent a few hours on make your own wedding… i tried on dresses on my avatar, veils, hairstyles by the time he proposed i knew i had to be carefull what i shared with him because i was afraid he would find out i already had a guest list ready from a few years back Jaja. We dated for 5yrs before he proposed but its nice to look at threads and see what you want but by the very end the only thing that stayed semi the same was the guest list. I went with a completely different dress, color and venue.

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