Post # 46
aww I’m super sorry. You don’t deserve that treatment at all. Just keep her at arms length, be polite when you have to be but don’t put up with that. My mom has a horrible Mother-In-Law and for the past 45 years the woman has been super horrible to her (she’s my grandma but she’s the worst). Basically the way her Mother-In-Law treats my parents almost killed their marriage very early on. Oh same thing happened my parents married young, a few years later his brother got married and my grandma treated them like royalty. Which infuriates my mom, I have to remind my mom to stop trying to make the lady like her, she never will.
Which sucks sometimes you can be the nicest person on earth, the son’s soulmate and the Mother-In-Law still tears you down. It’s awful. Remind yourself you’re amazing, your husband married you because he loves you and whatever beef your Mother-In-Law has with you is a nonissue. She doesn’t matter. Just be respectfull and keep your distance.
Post # 47
I so appreciate your understanding. Thank you for sharing the experience that your mother has had. It’s remarkably similar to mine, and I’m sorry to hear that her relationship with her Mother-In-Law hasn’t improved after all those years. I don’t know if the positive change I’ve experienced with my Mother-In-Law is going to last, but in the meantime, I’m enjoying the peace while remaining cautious in case she turns on a dime again. Sometimes, I beat myself up for not being closer to my in-laws but then I’m reminded why DH and I had to distance ourselves in the first place.
Just as there’s a whole lot of psychology behind a MIL’s reaction to her DIL if she marries her first/only son, I am SURE there’s an explanation for why that same Mother-In-Law will treat her daughter’s love interests like royalty. The more I understand stuff like this, the more objective I feel (and the less likely I am to think it’s a reflection on me and my character).
Thanks again for sharing. That really helped 🙂