(Closed) Doubled the guest list.. Nooooooooooo!!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

LOL! I’m so sorry hun. My mom did the same thing. We had a guest list of 40 and she sent me her own with 50. I invited all of them and, you know what, all of them have RSVPd “NO” so far (and not sent a gift). YAY!!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh man!!! The same thing happened to my sister when she was planning her wedding — she was the first to get married so mom and dad went a little wild with the invites. And then OF COURSE the guy who gets drunk and nearly gets punched in the face by the bride was one of the ‘randoms’. Here’s to hoping for some NO boxes checked! I was lucky enough to learn from my sister, who warned me ahead of time that “mom will want to invite a lot of people. You will have to say no. Then you will fight. Keep saying no. Unless you want Ross to come and get drunk at your wedding too.”

My list is about half of hers and I’m a happy camper 🙂 the one getting drunk and causing a scene had better be ME!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Went through this 20 minutes ago with my mom too but hopefully all those people wont come. You can count out at least 20 of those guests! Im sorry though, I already know the feeling.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Ok…you went from the 70 people you wanted, to 159 they wanted? So basically, you’re having a wedding in which over half the guests are people you really don’t care to share your day with? I understand that you feel “obligated” to your parents to invite a few extra people due to them financing your reception, but there’s no way that should extend to  nearly 100 people more! Your mother knew your numbers and should have piped up prior to you ordering your Save-The-Date Cards. After they arrived? Their number should have been capped at the 100 vistaprint sent you! Period!

As for your fathers argument you should have answered “I don’t have to invite (insert random persons name) then I won’t have to invite (insert 15 other random peoples names). You have 30, beyond my 70. It’s up to you and mom to figure out who they are”.

Really, it’s your day and if you want to keep it that way, you have to fight a little for it. If they’re bullying you this much over the guest list, just wait until other details start coming together. Fight for your day, Girl!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i know how u are feeling…. i had a mini vent yesterday.. our guestlist totaled invited is at 229. but thats with a listers responding no, or a listers not bringing children so there was room for b listers… so far 106 yes. and 26 NO’S.. i still have ninety something spots waiting for responses….

 

i really hope we dont have more then 200-210– max is 220 they will shut down the wedding reception if there is more then that…

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Dr Pepper:  Our original limit was 100.

Just passed 300 when I sent invites out last week.

Wish I had some advice, but I clearly never had a handle on this one in the first place lol.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I feel you!!

my parents are the opposite though…. we wanted to invite 75-100 people, and they were like, I think you should get that down to 30-40 people!

(weird thing is, they’ve been divorced since 1996. apparently they still agree on some things, without even knowing it. lol!)

what we did is cut the dinner. Without have a per head price stressing us out, we can now invite who we want and not worry too much. even if people no-show! we’re just doing limited bar, appys and desserts. evening ceremony, after dinner.

but if your parents are paying for the reception, you can’t stress TOO much. but i know the feeling of wanting an intimate wedding, where you know and love everyone there. at this point though, i’ve just accepted that there will be family there that I’m not too close to. and people can still RSVP no!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

They won’t come, but most will send a gift.”

In my case this was not true. They are not coming, and they are also not sending a gift. I’m a little mad I was talked into inviting them, because I feel like I wasted the cost of the invitation and stamp.

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