Do/will your children believe in Santa?

posted 2 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: Do/Will your children believe in Santa?
    Yes! That is part of the magic of Christmas! : (81 votes)
    66 %
    No, I worked hard to put those presents under the tree, so I'm not giving credit to an overgrown elf : (10 votes)
    8 %
    No, but for a different reason : (26 votes)
    21 %
    I'll explain below : (6 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    534 posts
    Busy bee

    zoraneale :  I’m CFBC, not Christian, never celebrated Christmas, but I hope I can still answer your question!

    No, even if I were to have kids someday, I would never teach them to believe in Santa when I myself know they should “unbelieve” it someday. I know the spirit of Christmas and the whole idea of Santa for a kid sounds cute and warm at first, but to me it seems very disingenuous. Maybe I’m wrong, but I feel like it’s setting them up for future trust issues.

    Post # 3
    Member
    256 posts
    Helper bee

    I don’t have kids yet, but I don’t think I’ll have them believe in Santa. With daycare and school, it’s likely they will find out early that Santa doesn’t exist, and I don’t want them to be hurt that I’ve been lying to them. Also, even as a kid, I found the whole idea of Santa hard to believe in. We will still do plenty of fun Christmas activities though.  You can have plenty of Christmas spirit without believing in Santa. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    7753 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I have 3 kids- 14, 6 and 10 months. Obviously my 14 year old knows the truth (finally asked me about it at about 9). My 6 year old believes and my oldest plays along for her. My oldest helps stuff the stockings now every year. I reject the idea that I am somehow going to damage my children by having them believe in Santa. I mean- you do you if that’s not your thing. But adding a little mystery and Christmas cheer is fun for our whole family. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    4060 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We’re doing Santa in our house, but he only brings one special  (not necessarily expensive) present.

    Post # 7
    Member
    4060 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I have never met anyone who has trust issues due to Santa, the Tooth Fairy etc. Honestly, i think that’s ridiculous.

    Post # 8
    Member
    534 posts
    Busy bee

    zoraneale :  Yeah, I understand. I always wondered how kids who did believe in Santa reacted when they found out! I’m glad you took it well.

    As for PP above me, I think teaching your kid a lie that you yourself don’t believe is utterly ridiculous. Let’s agree to disagree.

    Post # 9
    Member
    4060 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My parents told me if i didn’t eat the crusts of my toast i would never grow tall…i managed to still be able to trust. After a lot of intensive therapy of course. 

    Post # 11
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    127 posts
    Blushing bee

    Yes, my kids will absolutely be raised with Santa. Part of my FI’s family is religious so if they’re going to be introduced to that, I see nothing wrong with Santa.

    When they figure out that Santa is not a real person, then I can explain to them that Santa is the spirit of the season, of goodwill and giving and kindness without expecting anything in return. I don’t think you’d have lasting feelings of betrayal unless you really pushed the hell out of it and CONSTANTLY threatened your child that every small infraction would lead them to receiving no gifts.

    Santa will not spoil my kids. Not everyone has as much as others, so I don’t want my kid questioning why they got drastically more or less from Santa than another child. Santa fills the stocking with small toys and leaves a couple modest gifts. Santa does not leave you Playstation. 

    Post # 12
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    2456 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I don’t have kids, but I wanted to share that the four year old daughter a friend of mine doesn’t believe in Santa- but she absolutely believes Frosty brings presents! Her parents have no idea where she came up with it. 

    Post # 13
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    3420 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    Don’t have kids yet but we don’t have plans to incorporate Santa into the holiday season for any future kids. My Darling Husband never believed in it and I just don’t see a reason to follow the tradition. I think their are plenty of ways to enjoy the holidays without that stuff.

    Post # 14
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    268 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    Y’all are really reaching with this whole Santa leads to trust issues. Parents don’t maliciously lie about Santa to deceive their children. I ADORED Santa and believed in him until I was about 10 because I was an only child and so were my closest friends. We had a parade when I was around 8/9 and Santa came up to me and addressed me by name (later found out it was my school principal) and I ran up to my mom screaming HE KNOWS ME!!!! and it’s still a fond childhood memory. I promise I didn’t grow up to resent my parents for it.

    Also, all of my presents on Christmas day (other than from grandparents or whoever) were from Santa. None were from my parents because my mom didn’t want to confuse me and didn’t feel the selfish need to claim ownership of the gifts. I would have loved my gifts whether they were from Santa or my parents. I plan on doing the same for my future children. I wonder how some of your kids will feel when they see other kids getting presents from Santa and they don’t get any from him.

    Post # 15
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    2491 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    zoraneale :  Darling Husband and I don’t have any yet but we’ve already decided that its a no for us.  I chose the “other” reason because it isn’t just about the presents for us.  We both had rough childhoods and our parents weren’t able to get us things like other parents so it would have been disappointing to hear all this about Santa and then get nothing.  So from the start my mom told me Santa wasn’t real because she too was disappointed as a child with poor parents who gave her nothing and she struggled and didn’t want us yo be disappointed. I was totally fine with knowing the truth because I understood there was no Santa it was my mom. Now if my kid wants to think he’s real they can fantasize about it but presents will say from “mom and dad” and if they flat out ask if he’s real I will say no. But I won’t shove it down their throat until one of those things happens. 

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