Post # 76
This is why I sat down with my kids when they were in 4th grade (arbitrary, but it seemed the “right” time) and asked them why someone would give them presents. They answered, “Because they love me.” I told them they were right, and then I asked them who loved them more than anyone else in the whoe wide world. They smiled and we let it go at that. My kids NEVER “ruined” Santa for their younger siblings or anyone else at school because they found ALL of it magical – the believing, and the believing in a different way. They still receive gifts from Santa, as do I, and they know that Santa doesn’t bring gifts to those who don’t believe.
Post # 77
No Santa, and DEFINITELY no fucking elf on a shelf.
Post # 78
I love Christmas – I am so overboard that people joke about it. I was taught at an early age that Santa wasn’t realy but his goodness and giving was.
My parents had witnessed my cousins being left upset when neighbors recieved all the gifts they had wanted while my cousins recieved goodwill presents when their dad was out of work. My parents didn’t want me to feel like my self worth was compromised as a small child because of a parent being out of work or unable to make a big purchase due to financies. Didn’t dimish anything for us and probably made Christmas more of a wonderful time of the season.
I plan on evoking the spirit and love of Christmas, but being open and honest about Santa with my chidl.
Post # 79
Yes, this. I totally agree.
Believing in Santa is great and all if you are financially well-off and live in a bubble where everyone else is financially well-off too, but I don’t like the idea of a kid who comes from a lower socioeconomic status household feeling less than–whether that is because they weren’t “good” enough or “loved” enough because their parents can’t afford to keep up with the materialism that surrounds Christmas.
Post # 80
I only heard about elf on a shelf a few days ago (apparently I’ve been living under a rock). It seems like a pretty full on lie – with it always watching and moving it everyday. I dont think I’ll ever do elf on a shelf, but I’m still not sure about Santa. On one hand, I’m a scientist and not religious and believe that the truth is important and should be important to our kids. On the other hand I’m one of those people who really love christmas and it seems like it would be fun (and I thought it was fun to believe in santa when I was little).
Post # 81
that’s really sweet that your little girl still believes but I think you should tell her soon (she’d be going to high school next year if she was here in Aust.). Bless her little heart.
Post # 82
She’s not high school for 3 more years, she’s grade 6 they don’t swap till 9 here. I’m pretty sure she has an inkling, and we talk a lot about the spirit of Christmas etc. ‘Me going to see how things go and if she still genuinely believes at 12 them we’ll have a conversation. She’s a child who really looks at the world with rose coloured glasses and wants to save and fix everything.
Post # 83
Well, TEACHERS here do elf on a shelf and leprechauns. We also announce on announcements every morning if someone lost a tooth, so while kids are entitled not to believe in any of it, they still have to build a leprechaun trap in Kindergarten!
Post # 85
I confess, that astounds me. You’ve never met anyone who didn’t teach their kids about Santa? There are no people who are Jewish or Muslim or not from a Western Christian tradition in your area?
Post # 86
I grew up believing in Santa when I was very very little, then realizing it was make-believe and played along. I had a great time.
My little brother believed in Santa and eventually realized it was a lie… and then he tacked God onto the same imaginary-friends type of lie, because our parents and family said both were real. Critical thinking skills went too far? Whoopsie.
Santa will always be in my house… but when I have my own kids I’ll explain the make-believe part and then we’ll all play along together.
Post # 87
I live in southern Mississippi, so no I haven’t. At least to the point where I knew them well enough for the topics of Santa to come up. This is the Bible belt after all. Small towns don’t have much diversity in those respects.
Post # 88
I don’t plan on having kids but if I did, I would include presents from “Santa” but tell my kids that it’s not real, it’s like a game.
Post # 89
I definitely will. I was taught Santa was about giving so that is what I will do. It’s magical and fun. I loved and still love the idea of Santa. I still get/give presents from Santa.
Post # 90
I still get presents from “Santa” when I visit my parents too. XD