- 4 years ago
Regular poster going anon. to protect the innocent namely me.
Really bees, I don’t know quite where to start.
I’m overwhelmed and I’ve had it with FI.
About three weeks ago now, FI quit his job. He wasn’t happy there and hadn’t been happy there for quite some time for many valid reasons. However, him quitting came at quite an inconvenient time with our wedding coming up soon, his lease expiring in the new future, and it coincided with some other unfortunate events that caused us to wipe out our entire savings.
We have nothing, so to speak, and on top of it, FI has no job.
I’m also going through bit of a tough time with grad school and we both have parents who are very ill at the moment (my FMIL is currently in the ICU).
Things are just very stressful to say the least. I don’t know if it is because of all of this or simply because FI is a jerk of enormous magnitudes and I’ve never noticed before, but we’ve been arguing constantly over everything. I think we both are just at our wits end.
Last night we got into yet another row over something entirely stupid and FI said he was ‘done’ though very quickly retracted the statement. This morning he called and apologized and I apologized as well and we both agreed to work harder on us, but tonight he was back to having an attitude with me for no reason.
I know this is wrong of me bees, but when he gives me attitude all I can think is here you are giving me attitude over nothing while I’m working my butt off to support us both.
I have seriously debated breaking up with FI or smacking him. It depends upon the minute which I think is a better idea.
Realistically, I love him and doubt either of us has any intention of leaving the other, but I wonder how much of this our relationship can take. The constant arguing is enough I believe to break any relationship. Right now, I’m just at the point where I’ve decided to refuse to engage. You have an attitude? Fine, not my problem, not going to argue with you about it.
I guess I just need support bees. Advice. A joke or two might even help. I swear FI wasn’t like this before, but he seems so short tempered now and I just don’t know how to handle it other than avoid him completely.