(Closed) Down Syndrome..

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: If you found out you were having a DS baby early...
    Keep the pregnancy : (339 votes)
    47 %
    Terminate : (385 votes)
    53 %
  • Post # 3
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    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’d keep the baby. 

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Hard question, until recently I may have said abort. However, I recently discovered this amazing blog which gave me new wonderful insite. If you haven’t seen it you absolutely must look now. Amazing pics, a wonderful story that will tear your heart out and then put in a new bigger one. Get ready for tears 🙂

    http://www.kellehampton.com/2010/01/nella-cordelia-birth-story.html

    Post # 5
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    1966 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would keep the baby. When I was pregnant we actually decided against that screening because it wouldn’t have changed how much we already loved & wanted our baby. 

    Post # 6
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    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Wow.  I am surprised so many people would terminate.  

    If you spend time with a DS child you will realize that they are just, if not more, loving than other children.  There are so many people out there struggling to have kids why would you deny the life given to you just for that reason?  What if your non-DS kid ends up a drug addict, a murderer, etc?  Would you not want them either?  

    Post # 7
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    820 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would also keep the baby. This is the reason we chose not to have any screening done. Regardless of what the result would have shown, we would have chose to keep the baby, so we felt htere was no reason to get ourselves worked up about something we could not change. 

    Post # 8
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    6113 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I didn’t vote because I’m honestly not sure what I would do. My Fiance has an uncle with Downs so we see first hand the how people’s lives can be affected by it. His uncle is high functioning (has a small job, speech is fine, and can do most things himself) but still can’t live alone, so FI’s grandmother must take care of him. Even though he is high functioning you can see the difficulties in caring for a person with Downs. I’ve also seen some people with DS that can barely function and you can tell that, while the parents love their kids, it is extremely hard and they require constant care.

    I guess I’m not sure what I would do because I get frustrated very easily and I don’t ever want to feel resentment towards my child and it scares me that dealing with a special needs child might cause this. I also think about the child’s life. My FI’s uncle for example gets frustrated because he can’t do certain things and doesn’t understand why. It’s hard to watch him struggle with trying to understand why he can’t be like everyone else.

    On the other hand, I don’t know if I could bring myself to terminate a pregnacy if the issue wasn’t life threatening. (this goes for other diseases as well)

    Post # 9
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    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I can’t say with certainty, having never been in the situation, but I have the feeling I would keep the baby.  Maybe it would depend on how far into the pregnancy you get the diagnosis?  I actually have no idea when the screening occurs.  Now, if I found out I was carrying a baby with Tay-Sachs and that kid was going to live a very short and excrutiatingly painful life then I would abort.  But a DS kid can lead a happy and mostly healthy life (I know there are usually other physical complications with DS but not necessarily painful ones).

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

    I’m almost 28 weeks pregnant and I feel really bad for saying it, but I’d probably terminate. The plan back when we had our 11-week scan was to terminate if the genetic tests came back with poor results . . . but I honestly don’t know if we could’ve gone through with it. Thankful we didn’t have to make that decision.

     

    Post # 11
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    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Very, very tough question.  I truly believe I would keep the baby.  I don’t think I’d be able to live with myself after the fact if I terminated the pregnancy.  I’d live in constant regret and feel like I am the worst person ever, I’m pretty sure.  But that’s just me, each person knows what they can and can’t handle and have to make their own choices.  I feel like as parents, Darling Husband and I would love our children unconditionally, regardless. 

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @FauxBoho:  What a beautiful story.  It had me in tears.

    Post # 14
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    1572 posts
    Bumble bee

    Definitely a tough question, but I am pretty sure we would keep the baby and give it a chance. I definitely think I would regret terminating any pregnancy. :/ Caring for a special needs child sounds extremely difficult, but I would want to give it a shot.

    Post # 15
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    2023 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @FauxBoho:  I loved that story…. Definitely a tear-jerker.

    My cousin, who is one year, one week older than I am, has DS.  She was my best friend growing up.  We spent countless summers together playing at our grandparent’s house.  She’s awesome and Ive learned so much from her!

    I know that her parents really struggled and eventually got a divorce.  I think that having a DS child puts a lot of stress on relationships – but I definitely dont think that its a reason to terminate.  She has put so many smiles on so many faces… I cant imagine growing up without her!

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