Post # 302
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Bumble bee
We would keep, but I would understand why others would not.
Post # 303
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Worker bee
@peachacid: I’m pro-choice and I understand why some women would want to terminate a pregnancy if they found out they were carrying a disabled child. However, I personally would never do it. I don’t judge people who do, it just isn’t my personal choice.
Post # 304
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Worker bee
@FauxBoho: Thank you for posting that link. I read it, twice actually. I read it both times sobbing because it’s so beautiful! The honesty that she writes with, and how she bares her soul to everyong is so beautiful.
Post # 305
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Helper bee
@bebero: the US showed no soft markers and the blood test indicated she had a 1 in 40,000 chance of having a baby with Ds. I didn’t even end up having the blood work after my abnormal US results at the first trimester screening. I’m assuming that bloodwork is the quad screen you are talking about. Throughout her pregnancy she had no indications of Ds…her OB has gone over and over and over all their US’s and testing to see if she missed something but nothing showed up.
Post # 306
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Bumble bee
@baletrina: It’s hard to be so judgemental of people. I voted “terminate” because I cannot see myself spending the rest of my life and all through retirement caring for a child. I am not saying that children with DS aren’t wonderful and I admire all of the women who would be able to provide that level of care (and yes I understand there are degrees of DS).
Personally, I couldn’t do it. My Fiance and I have had this discussion and he couldn’t either.
@ChemistryBride: I can’t agree with you more. People can judge all they want. Don’t throw stones when you live in a glass house 😉
Post # 307
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Helper bee
@UK Bride: I was thinking the main line is the people voting to terminate are thinking about having their children grow through their entire lives. Yeah, at 10 a DS kid is different from other kids but either way you are still mothering them just differently. It’s when you are talking about being in your 60-70s and having a permently depandant child that things get very different between a DS kid and a non-DS kid. Maybe if people have huge families, with lots of cousins and extended family they aren’t as concerned. But if I had a DS kid about half that person’s adult life i very well could be dead and they would be what- in a group home? Who is paying for that? I don’t see a future where I can afford 20-30 years in advance for a group home to take care of someone.
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